To feel a bit uncomfortable

[HappyCamel]

I was sorting through photos on our computer network a couple of weeks ago. I saw a folder marked Private and thought it had photos I uploaded for some photo collage mugs I got for DH's birthday. Instead I found about 20 images, some professional, some DH had taken, of women with only one shoe on. Or no shoes on but clutching some.

I've just grabbed his iPhone because he'd left it upstairs and an alarm was going off. While I had it I glanced through his recent photos to see if he'd got any cute ones of dd I didn't know about and instead I've found one from last week of a women's bare feet and her shoes she'd taken off on the train (I recognise the carpet).

I'm not a shoe person myself and I didn't previously know about this umm obsession, fetish, interest, actually I'm not sure what to call it either. Should I mention it, or ignore it. Should I try to make more of an effort with shoes myself? I don't at all, I have awkward odd sized feet and, having just spent a year on maternity, I live in trainers and flat boots.

All advice gratefully received!

Happy, it sounds like you trust him and thats brilliant - I would seriously just say to him, that you are sorry, you found the pictures by mistake, then looked on his phone. You may not like your feet (i cant ssay i like feet AT ALL!) but he loves you so he may be well into yours given the right circumstances. Just say to him that you are fascinated by it, but remind him that he needs to be really careful about taking the pics and tell him that you are sure there are plenty of sites which would have those sort of pics (and videos!) to keep him happy for weeks. Trust me, there are!!

PMSL at totempole Sorry - i know its not funny but "sticky shoes" FFS

Totem, no, but I'm not a high heels or court shoe girl and that's what he takes photos of. My feet are a size and a half different and one is a wide fit, the other not. I also have a dodgy ankle after breaking it. All my shoes are no or low heels and have ankle straps or are boots so they stay on my little foot.

Maybe if I try to get some sexier ones he'll stop taking the photos.

you could buy some just for the bedroom though :)

I am pretty sure he adores you so you dont have to change what you wear ffs, but we can all use a bit of extra spice in the bedroom so id go for it.

You do have to talk to him though x

I'm not sure how the fetish works but I think it's like collecting. So I'm not sure what you wear will stop him having an interest in other people feet/shoes.

Happy I agree it sounds like you trust him & have a good relationship, but its his lack of boundaries that is the reason that it does need bringing up, if he is taking the photos himself, he could get himself into trouble - even if its just a punch on the nose from some very irate BF or DH - he needs putting straight - its creepy, I would be pissed off big time if it were my feet

& you'd be surprised what gets foot fetishists going - I once google to find a particular pair of flat comfy shoes & found a whole website - dedicated to the sweat stain & foot imprints left on the soles - guys posting links to second hand ones on e-bay - as wank material

I do have some experience of foot festishists, id rather not say how, but ime men with foot fetishes tend to be submissive sexually. Would you say this is the case for your DH?

rockhippy i seriously considered selling my used panties and tights on ebay when i saw how much they were collecting, but i just couldnt bring myself to do it

Really, Rockin? Eewwww.

Ok, I'll talk to him tomorrow and tell him I'm ok with all of it except him taking photos, which has to stop. Actually years ago I found a photo of a woman's shoes he'd taken on an escalator, he told me then it was because he wanted to get me so similar ones.

desperate, not submissive but very routinised, it's a mixture of him being aspie and me being his first lover. We've talked about it loads and he agrees it would be nice to be more varied but he struggles unless it's the same every time and I'm quite passive. He takes care of me though, iykwim, so I don't mind too much. Maybe if I insisted on being dominant he'd like it, I'd try it but I'm newly pg and not feeling up to it at all at the moment!

Bet he can't wait for the summer.

He needs to toe the line

Norma

Happy, it doesnt neccesarily follow so for gawd sake dont get the whips and chains out. Could be an interesting weekend at your house though.

Years ago there was a man who lurked in my local Uni library waiting for unsuspecting female students to kick off their shoes while they were studying.
He would then place a marshmallow in their shoes and wait until they put their shoes back on, squashing the marshmallow.
He was known as the Flumper.
I remember our neighbour telling my mum about it, and being unable to stop howling with laughter, which she took a very dim view of !

Whats an 'Aspie'?

I have had to stop someone taking photos of my feet on the train before

I thought flumpers sniffed recently cycled on bikes, or are they qumphers? You've nt seen anything til you've been ambushed by a posse of plushies...

Anyone taking offence at someone taking pictures of their feet is a bit over sensitive.

Unless the perp is rolling around the floor saying "Yeah baby" that is.

Is it over sensitive (I'm not) to be upset when someone?s taking an image of a body part to wank over? Feel it's a boundary

Yes I think it's over sensitive.

Who's to say that the photographer is going to wank over a PICTURE of your feet?

Trust me, they are

It's an image of your feet.

Not your feet.

Just because someone takes a picture doesn't mean it's always sexual.

The solution would be to wear sturdy shoes that cover your toes to prevent any stray photographer having the chance to rattle one off in/on or about your loafers.

But then you have to watch out for the hand fetishers.

It's a jungle out there :)

I'm sort of half half on this one.

If I found a piccy on the net say and I recognised they were my feet (somehow) that some stranger had taken a shot of I'd think it was rather weird.

I did however go out with someone that had a foot fetish and I found it rather sexy in a strange way.

Not sure I'd want my husband to be doing this though.

Double standards huh.