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Original poster

To consider taking DD to Disneyland Paris.

27 replies

Voidka · 22/02/2012 12:53

Without taking the DS's?

I am in two minds about it.

DS2 would not be fussed in the slightest and would probably prefer staying at home rather than going (he isnt fussed about Disney and hates the crowds). DS1 would come for the sake of coming iyswim but I dont think he would choose to go. I am also arranging a trip for him and DH to go to Alton Towers Hotel for the night, and he goes on lots of days out with just him and me.

However I still feel mean.

Would you do it or have you done it?

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WorraLiberty · 22/02/2012 12:54

You've forgotten one very important thing

Their ages?

If they're 16, 17 and 18 then YANBU Wink

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Voidka · 22/02/2012 12:56

Oh - DS1 is 10, DS2 is 5 and DD is 4.

The boys would stay at home with DH.

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WorraLiberty · 22/02/2012 12:58

Are you sure they wouldn't mind staying home?

Who would your DD go on the rides with?

And why do you do so many seperate things instead of together as a family?

podgymum · 22/02/2012 12:58

Are you sure DS2 wouldn't enjoy it? It would be such a nice age for him to go. for DS1 it's probably a bit "uncool"!!

Marymaryalittlecontrary · 22/02/2012 12:59

Seriously?! You wouldn't take kids of 10 and 5 to Disney? It's one thing if you can't afford it, but I think either all of you go or none of you should go. Same with Alton Towers. In fact, why not either do a stay at Alton Towers or a stay at Disney, but with the whole family?

WorraLiberty · 22/02/2012 12:59

10 is a wonderful age for Disney because they get to go on the better rides!

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Voidka · 22/02/2012 13:02

DS2 has ASD and really hates crowds - he is also terrified of people dressed up in costumes so I really know he would hate it.

We dont do everything separately, but because DS2 takes up alot of our time we try and get individual time with DS1 and DD.

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5Foot5 · 22/02/2012 13:02

Again - why not take them all? Even if they aren't in to "Disney" they will love the rides surely?

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Voidka · 22/02/2012 13:02

The other idea is I take DS1 and DD, but that would mean going in the school holidays.

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EauDeLaPoisson · 22/02/2012 13:04

Sounds reasonable to me. DD has been taken abroad by granparents by herself as DS was too young and also 'allergic to aeroplanes' in his mind!

IUseTooMuchKitchenRoll · 22/02/2012 13:04

I think it would be at all fair to only take one of them. There is much more that a 10yo can get out of Disneyland Paris than there is for a 4yo. It's reallynlt all that, and it doesn't compare to the American disneys that would be a four year olds paradise.

If you want to do that for your dd, and your oldest ds gets to go to Alton towers, what does your middle one get??

Wierd question IMO, why don't you all go somewhere you would all enjoy, you know, like a family?

WorraLiberty · 22/02/2012 13:05

So it's just DS2 that's preventing you going as a family?

Is that fair on DS1 though?

Why not take your DD and DS1 and leave DS2 at home to have some 1 on 1 time with his Dad....if you're sure he won't want to go?

Otherwise I can see a divide growing between your kids...especially between your DD and her brothers.

VonHerrBurton · 22/02/2012 13:07

Uncool for a 10 yo?? Really? Have only been to Florida but I guess the one in France is similar - my ds adored it last year age 9 and they go on and on about going again.

At the risk of sounding like my Mum if that's true kids are growing up too fast.

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Voidka · 22/02/2012 13:08

That is what we are trying to stop, so maybe taking DS1 and DD would be a better idea.

The more I post the more I can see its a crazy idea. Its lovely to have MN as a sound board :o

DS2 ideal day would be staying at home playing with his Ninky Nonks - he hates leaving the house (though is usually okay once out) and he hates anywhere busy - even a trip to the Supermarket is a nightmare.

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witchface · 22/02/2012 13:14

YABVU to take her to Disneyland Paris - get to Florida instead!

Fluffy1234 · 22/02/2012 13:15

I would scrap the Disney and Alton Towers ideas and choose something the whole family would enjoy together.

Maryellenwalton · 22/02/2012 13:35

I have 3 dc, age 8, 5 and 2 and the middle one has asd. We love to do what we can as a family but we also do things without him (DH or I stay behind with him or GPs have him for a day). There are many things he simply would not be able to tolerate/ enjoy and I cannot see why the other DC should miss out on experiences simply because fate handed them a special needs brother. It's not as if he's missing out if he would hate every minute of something like disneyland/ soft play centres etc

We make sure our asd son has many treats/ experiences that are tailored for him, but I don't want to martyr the childhoods of the other two completely! They only get the one childhood and I think it would alienate them from their brother more if he was the reason for constant sacrifice.

So I would go to Disneyland with no qualms whatsoever but I would take both the other DC. 10 is a great age for Disney!

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Voidka · 22/02/2012 13:38

Thanks Maryellen - thats exactly our situation too.

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TheCraicDealer · 22/02/2012 13:47

If crowds are the only issue for DS2 I think I'd be considering a term-time holiday winces Disneyland Paris is a two day jobby, it's not like they'd be missing a lot of school. It'd be a small price to pay to go to the most magical place on earth with the whole family Grin Don't worry too much about the people in costumes, there really aren't that many of them and they only hang about for 15 minutes or so before disappearing again. Plenty of signs warning you that Goofy will be here at Xam so you can avoid if necessary!

Chundle · 22/02/2012 14:52

We just got back with dds age 8 and 2.5 they both loved it. Yabu

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Voidka · 22/02/2012 15:16

Have compromised at a weekend at Center Parcs (which DS2 loves as do the other 2) and taking DD to a Disney Live show.

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WorraLiberty · 22/02/2012 15:52

Ok I have to ask Blush

Why only your DD for the Disney live show?

EauDeLaPoisson · 22/02/2012 15:54

Maybe her dd will enjoy it more than her brothers.... Kids can do things separately with their parents, doesn't mean they aren't loved!!!

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Voidka · 22/02/2012 16:03

DS1 doesnt want to go because its princesses.
DS2 wouldnt cope with the crowds/noise etc. I took him to see Numberjacks and we had to leave after 5 minutes even though he loves the show on TV.

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WorraLiberty · 22/02/2012 16:06

Ahh right...just being nosey! Blush

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