What's the big deal about having a vasectomy

[SardineJam]

My body doesnt tolerate contraceptives very well, having tried a wide variety of options over the years

DP and I have two lovely boys and I am happy with two and dont want anymore as I now want to focus on climbing the career ladder

After DS2 was born, DP and I discussed the options and both decided that a vasectomy was the best option for us, given that I dont want to go through the horrors of using contraception, and we dont want to use condoms either. DP went ahead and had the procedure

So many of his friends and mine, are really surprised he had the snip, with many of his friends saying that its a big commitment etc. and all quite final

I really dont understand all the negativity! AIBU?

Dh had his done a year and a half ago when he was 23. He told the Dr he wanted it done rather than asked. It was a major decision for us both, but in the end it was the right decision for us. No other child would replace my children god forbid anything happen to either of them just as no one can replace any other family member.

Dh walked like John Wayne for a week after and had pain killers for a while but has had no other problems.

'We did know who we were going to be in 5 years time jelly.'
Nobody can know what life is going to throw at them.

'What about people who lose their children as adults, they're hardly going to replace them with babies are they? What a stupid reason not to do it. '

The point is we can never know how those people feel, having fortunately not been in their shoes. If they feel empty after horrific loss and want to have a future with some happiness, why is it so bad if they choose to have another child? One couple who lost both children were distraught at having their whole future ripped from under them. Very luckily they have now adopted after a long road. I personally wish them all the best and much happiness.

We live in a world where science have processed do much.

I am 100% know I do not want any more children, so dh had the snip. However in 10 years time if we had any regrets we could ivf, sperm doner or try a reversal op. I know there is a chance this may fail but it is an option

Was so simple. Saw GP he refered me to GUM clinic, got letter from gum in 10 days asking me to phone for appt. I rang, made appt for 18 days would have beenquicker but I wanted a friday appt. 9 am appt was in Starbucks having coffee with dw and dc by 9.45. Would have gone back to work next day if I worked weekends.
No pain apart from first local jab!! and just purple plums for a fornight. Then had to wait 12 weeks for all clear.
No regrets from me or DW. She is happy not putting chemicals into body and worrying about getting preg again.

[Grin] balotelli, read your message out to DH and he winced at "purple plums" glad it was so straight forward though.