AIBU to think that engaged couples...

[Kayoe]

...should have sex? More than say, hmm, 6 times in 5 months? Before we lived together he couldn't get enough, now its like he just, frankly, can't be arsed! Yep, he has a stressful job, however, I used to do the same job and TBH it ain't all that bad. I have tried everything, and I do mean everything. Even a trip to CentreParcs. All to no avail. I was on a promise tonight and he's currently asleep on the small sofa on the other side of the room. Have tried asking him and he says nothing is wrong. If so WTF wont he even give it a quick pump pump squirt (being coarse!). I MISS SEX. Please help!

Thank you cbem. I do try to talk, and, natch, even agree sexytime evenings. However, there's always an excuse. Normally one that end up making me feel bad or even embarassed for asking why it ends up not being what it should be. TBH, I'm not a bad looking gal, but several times lately, he's stopped, er, feeling the moment, and there's nothing I can do to bring it back.

Obviously something going on with him, you need to try to get to the bottom of the issue really. The stopping mid flight makes me think that perhaps he has some confidence issues and now is so worried he wont be able to keep it up that he avoids sex in the first place. Or, theres some other issue, like stress related to getting married- is he definately up for it? is it impending? or possible that he's humping someone else and feels guilty? Or maybe, he just doesnt have a very high sex drive and genuinely cant be arsed. Does he have more to do now you live together? has it just coincided with the natural slowing down of the sex life that often happens after a while?
Hope you get it sorted Kayoe

Nothing as unsexy as planning sextime imo

OP I really think you need to back off for a while. Nothing worse than being pressurised.

Even centreparcs? Now there's you're problem! Sorry, just pointing out how unsexy that particular destination is to most people.

Sex does sound infrequent; DH & I have been together for 10 years & have been through libido peaks & troughs. Not all men are constantly revved, despite what the media says.'we had to talk about it, work on it & we got back on track.

Good luck.

GavisconJunkie- I don't think that's quite what the op meant- search previous threads for 'Centreparcs'.... ; )

Thanks for the replies:-)

That was the Centreparcs I was meaning Yoghurty;-)

I dont think he's getting it on elsewhere - he hasn't the time. Have addressed it with him and I'm just 'going on' at him. Think I'm just going to have to bide my time and see what happens. I know something must be going on, its just getting him to talk about it. Urgh, feel ever so frustrated!

Buy a vibrator. Just remember to wash it after visiting Centreparcs.

I am rather riveted that an overpriced holiday cycling with moaning children through the woods followed by a log flume, swim and chips is equatable to anal sex :o

I see! Well, I stand by my original post!

Agincourt is it because nobody really wants to go there, but a lot end up goingit because they feel it's a rite of passage?

"GavisconJunkie Mon 20-Feb-12 15:19:59
Even centreparcs? Now there's you're problem! Sorry, just pointing out how unsexy that particular destination is to most people"

ROAR! :o

I too thought she meant a break in CentreParcs and i was thinking 'hmm couldn't you think of a sexier place?'

I didn't know there is another meaning.

Glad it wasn't just me :)

there are sexier places though in both respects, I don't really think my bumhole is a subtropical swimming paradise but maybe Centreparcs thinks otherwise

Well you learn something new everyday. CentreParcs .

I cant wait to tell my dh
He might ask me what Disneyland stands for, he hates the place.

FFS, now I'm going to end up sniggering uncontrollably when my friend gets back from her holiday and someone asks 'How was your trip to CentreParcs?' This is not the kind of thing you want to explain on a Tuesday morning at soft play.

Oh, I'm in hysterics now, imagining the puzzled faces, thinking 'Centreparcs? Sexy destination? Is she for real?' :o

Just thought something out of the ordinary would have might have been a bit different and, well, exciting for him. I know I should back off, but I miss it!

You learn a new thing every day!

When you have asked and he has answered why what where his answers? Does he have problems getting his matey up or keeping him up, does he have problems finishing...

You say its changed since you moved in or are you just linking the two? and its not the fact the relationship happened to hit a low sex point just after? Maybe you have some bad habbits he has noticed since moving in? I found out about most of my OH bad habbits when we moved in together.

Dont plan sexy time just do it! I know people say its normal for the sex life to go away some what after time but how long have you been together? Ive been with my OH many years and the only difference is how many times in one day since we have children and cannot just do it when ever where ever.

Hope you both sort it out

Can somebody let me in on the joke . What Centerparcs thread?

YANBU. You should be having more sex this early on in your relationship.

Been together for over 2 years, he moved in here properly in September.

Never, ever had this trouble before. He had problems, erm, keeping it up a few months ago, and also now actually getting it up in the first place. Never, ever used to happen. I get the standard nothing's wrong, then when I try to push the topic more, I am nagging. He is getting very, very close to forty, so perhaps there is some sort of psychological issue at play with him? Not that I'm suggesting he's old, just that it's some sort of male mid life crisis thats happening?

fortifiedwithtea (linking for first time, bear with me) Centreparcs Hope it works!