Told off a friends DS today - WIBU.

[Voidka]

We were at a birthday party of another DC - one of the Mums from our Antenatal group. There are 8 of us and we all have children turning 5, then this woman and I both have other children (her DS is nearly 4, my DD is 3.4)

Her younger DS is constantly horrible to my DD, so much so that we have avoided contact with them because she just says 'you shouldnt do that' to him in a really drippy voice, or 'Thats not very nice is it'

Last time we all met up her threw a car at DD's head which cut her just under the eyebrow, Mum didnt even apologise and she made some comments about how children should be allowed to play without adults interferring even if they get rough.

So today I sat and watched him kick my DD hard in the shin. About half an hour later my DD is sobbing her heart out and came running over with a massive bite mark saying 'G bit me'. His mum just pulled a funny face and turned away.

So I told him that that was a very naughty thing to do, and that he should say sorry (which to be fair he did straight away). His Mum then told me that I was making out she was a bad mother and that I had no right to tell her DS off, its just that he doesnt like girls which 'is a boy thing' (her words)

WIBU? If it was a one off I could let it go but its all the time, and while my DD is no angel she doesnt provoke or even retaliate.

YABU - and i would give them a wide berth from now on. We had a nephew who behaved like this boy and a SIL who behaved like the mother. After escalating trouble at school by the time the brat boy was about six SIL's partner became a SAHD because she found it impossible to discipline him or set any boundaries for him.

Their children are still very challenging (15.5 and 10 now) and I won't have them stay here when they come to the UK because of the noise, the mess and the extent of the breakages. DH pays for a hotel and on more than one occasion has been charged for stuff they have broken, ie, swinging from a curtain and snapping the rail. They are just undisciplined - there is nothing actually wrong with them at all. Thank goodness they inhabit a different continent and we only get to see them about once every three years - when DH pays for a trip so they can see MIL. Funnily enough, she visited them once and has always found an excuse not to return