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for being a little bit hypocritical..........

61 replies

Lexie1970 · 18/02/2012 14:14

Vaguely know a lady from a slimming class and bumped into her yesterday in supermarket.

Made the mistake of saying hello, how are you and then the floodgates opened up - that her benefits had been stopped and she was waiting for a doctors letter to be sent to office to see if they would be reinstated. How did they expect her to survive on just housing benefit and child benefit and how she had to borrow £50 to do the shopping, her son needed new shoes and on and on and on...

I said well, it is understandable that if certain claimants are using a bad back as an excuse and they are roofing on the side then it is right that they are being assessed, to which she replied that she had a bad back and was being assessed, how she couldn't walk far etc etc and yet was quite happily carrying a basket and swinging it around!!!

I am very black and white re benefits and think you have to be incapacitated to receive them and not just have a bad back occasionally but that could open up a whole other thread!!!

Anyway, politely said hope it all gets sorted but was actually thinking, if you can afford a pet, run a car and pay for a weekly slimming class you are not in dire straights and perhaps should think about looking for some paid employment instead of bitching about your benefits being stopped.

OP posts:
AKissIsNotAContract · 18/02/2012 14:48

Well if you are falsely claiming benefits then yes you are hypocritical. If not then you a just a judgy bitch.

LilacWaltz · 18/02/2012 14:48

Op... Where are you???

MrsKittyFane · 18/02/2012 14:49

Lexie
Why the ... did she think you would want to know any of this?
The only problem I would have with this woman is that as a virtual stranger ( someone I would exchange smiles with but rarely chat to) WTF would she tell me the intimate details of her financial, medical, personal life??
I can't stand it.

Original poster
Lexie1970 · 18/02/2012 14:50

Thank you wooly for the Biscuit no doubt you and all the other posters would prefer I choke on it.

Should have realised having read a couple of the benefit threads in the past that to be against benefits being given out with very little means testing goes against the tone of the majority MN posters.

Have a pleasant Saturday everybody and actually bluefergie I am quite nice Wink

OP posts:
ImperialBlether · 18/02/2012 14:51

WorralLiberty, still laughing at "the basket swinging bitch."

woollyideas · 18/02/2012 14:52

I am not in favour of choking. I am a pacifist.

AKissIsNotAContract · 18/02/2012 14:53

But you still haven't explained how that makes you a hypocrite Confused

BlueFergie · 18/02/2012 14:54

Basket swinging even worse. Has she no shame? Does she not realise that the only acceptable activity for those on disability is huddling incapacitated in a corner moaning in pain in between kissing the feet of the hard working tax payer in gratitude. And owning a pet? Disgraceful.

Original poster
Lexie1970 · 18/02/2012 14:58

OK - Bluefergie is right by saying I hope it gets sorted when I meant no such thing.

You are all making comments re: the basket. Surely carrying a heavy food basket puts strain on your back and it would make more sense to push a trolley where the load is evenly distributed??

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WorraLiberty · 18/02/2012 15:00

Why don't you hope it gets sorted? Confused

SuePurblybilt · 18/02/2012 15:00

In the same way that being fat puts a strain on your back and you'd be wise to take steps to address it?
But you've taken her Slimming World membership as evidence of her rolling in tenners like Scrooge McDuck.

WorraLiberty · 18/02/2012 15:02

Yes but if she pushed a trolley, how would she be able to swing it?

I don't reckon she'd get it further than hip height

Whereas a basket leaves more scope to get it right above her head.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 18/02/2012 15:02

Oh FFS are there still mindless twats starting threads like this.

RachelWalsh · 18/02/2012 15:08

Should people on benefits even be allowed to use baskets? It makes me wonder just how much food my tax money is buying them. At least it wasn't a trolley.

WorraLiberty · 18/02/2012 15:09

If it was a trolley I'd like to know where she got the £1 coin from Rachel

And it better not be from my taxes Angry

SuePurblybilt · 18/02/2012 15:11

Maybe the OP is hinting that if she can push a trolley, there's a workfare job going at Tesco?

desperatenotstupid · 18/02/2012 15:13

Thing is Worral, if the OP had come on here and said she was swinging the TROLLEY we might have actually agreed with her that the woman shoudlnt be claiming incapacity benefit!

What i really want to know is what was in the said basket - i hope it was all ASDAs own, or Lidl cheapo brands, because if the bitch was in waitrose i think she should go to prison

WorraLiberty · 18/02/2012 15:16

It was probably full of Fruit Shoots and formula milk.....

Hullygully · 18/02/2012 15:19

You should have shot her then and there the SPONGING CUNT

desperatenotstupid · 18/02/2012 15:24

bring bck the workhouse thts what i say - oh no, hang on, thats what DC is trying to do - soon we will go to tesco and be served by children dressed in rags, and rightly so sponging cunts is right hully!

WorraLiberty · 18/02/2012 15:27

Yeah but would she be able to pull her weight (scuse the pun) in a workhouse?

My guess is that she'd be a slacker...faking a bad back and still sponging her bowl of gruel at the end of the day without having actually earned it.

desperatenotstupid · 18/02/2012 15:29

no no, if she can swing a basket then she can work the mangle

mamaggie · 18/02/2012 17:31

She probably has a mobility car, the slimming classes are because weightloss will help her symptoms, and the pet - why the heck shouldn't she have a pet?

Unless you know someone's complete medical history, it is a ridiculous comment to suggest she is capable of working and is therefore a benefits scrounger. People don't have to be totally incapacitated to claim.

My daughter is a wheelchair user, she goes to college, is heading off for uni in September, goes out with her friends and doesn't live life defined by her disability. She will still be able to claim DLA though.

LilacWaltz · 18/02/2012 17:33

Has op flounced?

RuleBritannia · 18/02/2012 17:38

I think that there has been so much publicity recently that we are subconsciously on the lookout for benefit scroungers because we are encouraged to report them. I have a neighbour who doesn't go to work, has four boys of employable age and several pets. They all live on benefits. She told me.

There are plenty of jobs around here but I can't say, "Well get a job", can I? It's none of my business. but I did report once.