To not want to go out anywhere with my DC....

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because they won't behave.
We are supposed to be going food shopping but I really don't want to. I feel really that things are how they are.

Bribery?.... something nice to eat at till if they behave on way round?

Don't not go..... then they've won

Seriously just stay calm and point out any disapproving looks from others to your DC but ignore yourself iyswim. Praise good behaviour.

But I'm feeling really down.

Talk to us, then. How many children? how old?

Online shopping. Or, try to arrange it so you only take one at a time. I sympathise, I try to avoid taking both of mine to the supermarket. I used to wonder, when they were smaller, why the trolleys were designed with two child seats Right Next to Each Other. Would make much more sense to have one at either end so they couldn't poke each other in the eye.

Or, you could go to our local ASDA and I could guarantee that your children would not be the worst behaved that you could see.....

Sorry not to have more constructive advice, but I think lots of us have been there!

On line shopping.

Oh my 2 can be a pain in supermarkets. 6 year old can go all hyper while 2 year old decides to try and knock things off shelves. Shopping list in control of 6 year old he likes but still can be irritating and stressful. Often we will bump into a teacher as 6 year old decides to roll on floor etc.
I sympathise!

DH has said he will go if I do him a list.

I hope he is not like my dh who will ring from every bloody aisle. Also he goes 'off piste' with list and gets lots of extra [because on offer] that won't fit in our piddly fridge or freezer. Maybe you are luckier than me!

Oh yes, definitely do a list. When my husband goes without one all we end up with is beer and snacks.

I know how you feel OP. I have a feeling of dread everytime I go to the supermarket or local shop with ds.
He always wants to go and flip thru all the comics, and I don't always want him to do this, especially in the local shop as they really don't like it.
So, I say "come on ds, we are not looking at comics today. Help me find the milk"
his reply:
"No. I am just looking at this"
Cue stand off, with me going over and hissing in his ear about withdrawing some privelidge or other.

I just feel like I shouldnt have to cajole and threaten my kind to walk around a bloody shop with me for 5 minutes.
When I was a 5 year old it just would not have occured to me to argue with my mother in this way.

And I am a hardass. I have put down the shopping and literally carried him screaming out of shops before, when he just ignores me.

Online shopping is really expensive-you have to be able to bulk buy to make delivery charges cheaper, and Mozzas or Aldi don't deliver!
Also, shopping is part of life, isn't it? Children need to be able to do boring stuff with their parents. Don't they?

why can't DH look after them whilst you go

I do understand. I have 2, one is 6 and one is 3. The 6 year old is well behaved, had his moments in the past, but taking him out in public was never an issue. My 3 year old is so badly behaved in public! I hate the school run, as he runs off and is rude. We went shopping on Thursday to Tesco. I thought how hard can it be, I only need a few things. It was a nightmare! He won't sit in the trolley seat anymore and instead tried to cling on the underside of the trolley and throw stuff out of it. He is so unruly. I am constantly embarrassed and sick of apologising for him. However, aparently he is as good as gold in nursery!

My advice? Keep discipling them and be consistent. Limit trips to shops etc by going in nursery time, if poss. Its awful but they will grow out of it. Im becoming more immune to the stares. I only disaprove if parents myself if they are shouting and out of control, or lets child run wild without trying to control them. Ive been suprised how many people have been supportive to me and told me they have been there..... It will pass.

I wouldnt go food shopping with young children if they had difficulty behaving. Order online in future, seriously! Save yourself the pain.

Asda have delivery slots for 3.99 if you book ahead. Pay 3.99 or have a couple of hours of supermarket hell spoil your day? I know which one I'd choose.

Same question as fabby! Or don't you drive?

Why order online when you've 2 adults in the house?!

Go on your own & have coffee in the cafe too!

I went through this when mine were little, then I read Toddler Taming when the author said, "If they misbehave in supermarkets, don't take them. Go alone." It shows what a state I'd got into, because those words really blew my mind. It was almost as though I hadn't realised I could go without them. After that, I went when they were in bed. Problem solved.

BluddyMoFo I feel the same as you. On their own they are fine but together it is really hard work.

DH has taken DS (age 8) with him.

I have recently seen the doctor with a few MH problems (feeling down and other stuff), she has referred me to MH services. I can't wait to start feeling better.
Just incase people haven't seen my name around much it's cause I name changed for this thread.

How old are the DC?

They are 8 and 3.

I completely abandoned supermarket shopping about a year ago after I discovered the joys in online shopping. Honestly, I've no idea why anyone would want to head to a supermarket with children - it's a bloody nightmare even with children who are normally delightful.

I don't at the moment, I am finding going anywhere with my youngest nearly impossible. I am actually finding strategies around going out to avoid it. Getting the old pram out too for my three year old. Must do that now.

I think I'm finding it hard as well because they have been on half term holiday all week. I do love them, I'm just finding things a bit harder than normal at the mo.

Asda deliver for 2.50 if you are able to be in all day as they deliver between 10 - 6 for that price. Sainsbo's do it for free mon, tue wed and thur if you spend £100. 2.50 is less than the petrol, busfare to get there.