Aibu to not want to call my daughter ziva just because my mum wants me too?

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My mum is insisting I call my baby girl due next month Ziva or Stephanie Anne. They are my mums sisters names and she feels I should call my daughter one of them ,but I hate both of the names. They remind me too much of my nasty aunts. Would you inflict names you associate with people you don't like on your baby to please your mother?AIBU?

Yanbu

No, YANBU.
What about using one as a middle name? That might keep your Mum relatively happy and you can then use a name you like.

I have never heard of Ziva! I like it!

YANBU to not want to name your baby after your Aunties :)

Congratulations, i wish it was me.

Of course YABU - you should call your daughter whatever your Mum wants you to call her - even if you hate it. - seriously? Do you really expect anyone to say YABU??????

Yanbu. You are the one who will have to call your daughter whichever name you give her, every day. Don't give her a name you don't like!

YANBU! She is your baby, therefore, it is up to you (and DP/DH) to name her!

YANBU. Your baby, your name choice. Jeezo, who does she think you are, the Royal bloody Family?

She's going to walk right over you if you let her do this - if she wanted a baby named after her sisters, she had her chance with you.

Of course not!

hey are your children so you and/or husband choose their names. My mother wanted my daughter to have Elizabeth as her name because it was prevalent in the family. A perent can forget that someone else helped to 'make' the baby and that person might like to have a choice - and he has a family.

*parent

You've still got time to buy a dog and call it Ziva.

of course yanbu, tell your mum firmly but politely and dont make any excuses or apologise for it - if you let her think she has the right to chose the names it does not bode well for her letting you get on with raising your child as you see fit, rather than thinking she can make all the decisions or tell you to do this or that. Just say thanks for the suggestion mum but no, I will be choosing my own child's name. If she makes a fuss about it she is bvu not you

OP-you should call your baby what you want to.

Even if you liked your Aunts/their names, you still wouldn´t have to use them.

Was your Mum coerced into calling you something she didn´t like?

Is your name Ziva or Stephanie? No? Well then point out to your mum that she had her chance XX years ago when she was naming you, now it's your turn.

(or quickly buy a pot bellied pig and call it Ziva-Steph!)

Although I love Ziva, I think I like Abby's name better.

(I love the character, not the name, BTW )

:o

More seriously, I wouldn't give aunties names to a child of mine. Even if I liked them. Too confusing.

My mum wanted me to call DS1 Benjamin James and kept calling bump that. VBefore we had the dating scan she wanted me to call bump if it was a girl Liberty and kept alternating between the two names, Then when she found out he was going to be boy she started calling him Benjamin James.

The initials would have been BJP which my sister said once would be like '
Blow Job Please'

Needless to say we called him Jack.

how is it even pronounced?

Your mother is BU.
Leave the bastard.

Yes thanks I will put my foot down with her tonight. She is very controlling even though I moved out years ago. Time to stand up to her I think.

My niece has my name as a middle name and I have to admit that I was very proud and flattered when my SIL told me her choice but certainly the shine would have been taken off it a bit had I discovered it had been an order from above! I am very lucky to have a very lovely name though, my mother has exceptional taste

Abby and McGee need to sort themselves out, they would make such a cute couple :)

YANBU, your child, your choice

why dont you take all the letters of thier names and use some of these to put in your daughters name.

ZIVA and Stephanie Anne = sarah = a from the first name and s from the second. that way you arnt leaving anyone out and you get to pick a name you like

Don't look to your mum to name your child. You and your OH created her so therefore you and your OH are the people to name her. Simple as that. Your mum doesn't have to like your DD's name to be able to accept it.

As a previous poster said, if she want to call a baby after her sisters, then she had her chance back when she was becoming a mother.

Your mum has had her turn at naming children now its yours.