AIBU To allow my dcs to have their bedroom any colour they want

[shaka12003]

Hi all just after a general view on whether iabu by letting my dcs have their bedroom decorated in what ever colour they want.

The dcs have never had a bedroom of their own before and we promised them when they did we would decorate them how they wanted.

Dd had hers done first for her birthday in pink and lilac and fairys shes 7 not my and dps choice of colour but she loves it.

Ds is now having his done and he wants a football bedroom so ive ordered him bedding and curtains and lightshade in his football team. He has asked for us to paint the walls in the colour of theteams away shirt compleate with crest and logo. Weve agreed to this and i started yesterday. People are saying that wabu doing it as the colour is red and black.

Ds is 6 so not a baby and our argument is its his room he has to sleep and play in their not us.

so aibu by doing what dcs want in their own bedroom.

I let my DDs choose in our old house and they went with super bright sugar pink, i got used to it and it was there room but we have now moved and i wanted colours that they wouldn't tire off so let them chose a colour and then I chose the shade, so DD1 wanted purple and I chose Violet White for her, she was v happy with this.

I am not sure I would be happy with a red and black bedroom, are you painting walls black...

their not there

gosh of and not off...

Of course you should let him choose.

It's their personal space imo, prob. more important when they're teens, but ds regularly redecorates his bedroom badly so I end up helping him

Yanbu as it's your house, but you may be setting yourself up for a lot of work in the future. Your DD might decide in another couple of years that fairies are for babies or DS lose interest in football. For this reason I am planning to do the walls of my DD's bedroom plain and let her choose her own accessories within reason as then it is easily changed.

I think if it's not going to look nice, then they should decide on something else red and black? Sounds horrible and a pain to decorate over next time

I agree with ABigGirl. DS's room is currently completely plain and when he gets older he'll be able to pick accessories - bedclothes, lampshade etc - that he wants. The only reason I wouldn't let him choose the paint/carpet colour is because it's not easy to change and I'm not sure the paint colour matters much to children anyway as long as their favourite stuff is around them.

I did this with my two for years, so of course I'm going to say YANBU. For the tricky painting over bits, lining paper works a treat. Use lining paper, then paint whatever, then strip the paper and start over when you need to change the theme,
I would set a limit on the number of changes though, so they don't think of it as a yearly event. Unless you want to that is.
It was a little effort for a huge amount of fun.

I think your DCs are lucky to have such lovely parents!
Red and black is fine, DH wanted to paint our living room red and black (one wall red, in a certain way) if done right it can look quite stylish...but anyway I'd let your DCs have it their way - as you said its their space to sleep and play in. It's nice to have somewhere you can calls yours.
YANBU

Thanks for the replies. Ive done the woodwork black. One wall will be red and black as thats the one that i will be doing the crest and sponsors logo on so the same as our away shirt.

I like decorating and I made the dcs wait a while before i decorated their rooms so they made sure they really wanted the colours they choose. If people want I'll put pics up on my profile when its done for you to see.

Oh, and a decent rug on top of the carpet saves a lot of grief when Things Happen Unexpectedly.

My son is bonkers about The Beano, andthe colour yellow so he chose a very vivid shade to go on his wall. Its almost glow in the dark

I ahve resisited for so long, I always had that 'how will we sell' mentality but thats no way to live your life in your house,. always wondering whther someone else will like it after you

Surely this is what everyone does.

Why else would kids have such birght and sometimes ghastly colours and themes in their rooms? No adult would have chosen that.

Ofcourse it is fine. Their room, their choice.

Well I can't let mine choose!

Moving into a brand new house next month but not supposed to paint Walls for a year! So it's magnolia all the way!

YANBU - not sure I'd do it, but it's your house.

YANBU it's their bedroom and it's not hard to repaint if they don't like it in a few years time. I wouldn't let DCs choose carpet because that's expensive to replace and needs to last but anything else is fine.
Your DS room sounds lovely and I wish I was as creative as you, I would make a horrible mess trying to draw a logos on DDs wall.

When it comes to sell your house you can just go round magnoliaising everything. You can't live your life now for something that will happen decades in the future.

I feel really mean now! My ds wanted bright red all over his walls, I said no.

He does have red on the wardrobes though, and they are built in, so that's nearly one whole wall of red. And there are football posters all over the rest of the nice neutral walls, so it wouldn't have made much difference!

sorry iusetoomuchkitchenroll didn't mean to make anyone feel mean

Theres no problem with carpet hes got lino so he could play with his cars and thomas stuff in his room lol.

Crown have a cool black paint called rebel. Do it!! I think a child's bedroom is their space and they should be allowed to express themselves

don't worry, I don't mind feeling a little bit mean to avoid a letter box red room in my house! And both my dc love their rooms now, so I think for us, we made the right choice.

I would do the same as you and let them choose.

We are moving DD into the (bigger) spare bedroom over the summer hols by which time she will be nearly 8.

I did put my foot down about technicolour furniture as I want something neutral that will last, but have agreed she can have what she wants on the walls. She's already chosen this, for the bottom half with lilac paint above the dado rail.

What she doesn't know is that I'm going to make feature wall of the chimney breast - in shocking pink glitter!

I would but she's not asked yet. DD's room is entirely white with a cream carpet and then loads of animal posters, postcards and maps up everywhere. She's got bright bedding, curtains and light shade.
When she asks, she can have it how she likes. I remember as a kid wanting my room a certain way, I was made to compromise by my Mum on it and I hated it.

I covered a small bedroom wall by pinning up a giant-size duvet cover with team colours/logo on it.
Fast, effective, and easy to change.

I'll buck the trend here and say I would nudge them toward rooms I thought would look nice and that they won't grow out of too quickly. Not keen on 'theme' rooms anyway.