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Original poster

AIBU - or AI just old fashioned - to think that if you have under 16s on your facebook...

33 replies

lilolilmanchester · 15/02/2012 14:50

... that you wouldn't post sexually explicit posts??? Am no prude but think as adults we have a responsibility towards children. I was really shocked that one of my friends would post sexually explicit stuff on her FB when she has 10 - 15 year olds as FB friends as well as "adults".

or, as she says, am I just a boring old fart?

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 15/02/2012 14:52

I may be old-fashioned too, but with nephews and nieces aged under 16 on my FB, I would not post such links.

TheParan0idAndr0id · 15/02/2012 14:53

I wouldn't have children on my FB or post sexually explicit material.

mrsjay · 15/02/2012 14:54

no you are right im a bit of a prude anyway i dont want to see pictures of over weight women with their bits out with smutty slogans , or a man with a pierced willy , so I agree with you but i suppose its their FB they can post what they like some people find this sort of thing amusing i dont as an adult so i wouldnt want a teen seeing it , I had a fb friend would would talk about her teenage sons private parts and how his gf needed to give him a good seeing too i was like Shock

dexter73 · 15/02/2012 14:54

Why would you post sexually explicit things on your fb page anyway? (old duffer here!)

Bramshott · 15/02/2012 14:55

Well my mother is on my Facebook so I always have that at the back of my mind when I post anything TBH.

MarriedInVegas · 15/02/2012 14:55

Id say it depends on the content, if its the oddsexual comment that would go over a younger ones head then id say thats acceptable however if it pictures of her in full on gimp gear the obviously thats too much! Grin

SauvignonBlanche · 15/02/2012 14:56

I agree, I use FB to keep in touch with family, who are all over the world. This includes DNs so am circumspect especially on what I say to them.

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lilolilmanchester · 15/02/2012 14:56

Oh good, am not alone then.

I totally agree that people can post what they like to their FB, but I do think if you have children as FB friends, you should think twice before posting

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ExitPursuedByaBear · 15/02/2012 14:56

I'll join you in the Prude's Corner.

Methe · 15/02/2012 14:57

This is why I dont have children on my FB!

A 30 something male friend posted a link to that Centre Parks/Anal sex thread on my wall and that made me Blush as my Nan is on my friends list.

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lilolilmanchester · 15/02/2012 15:00

having your Mum or Nan on FB with such posts is embarrassing- but u 16s is JUST WRONG in my book ?

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mrsjay · 15/02/2012 15:00

Oh no poor nan Shock I dont know why people post these things i always watch what i say on my fb i have my teenagers as friends i dont have any others as friends i deleted relations children because they did my head in I have my own teenagers i dont want to see their dramas and text speak Grin . most people who post these things think its hysterical and dont really think who is on their friends list ,

Marymaryalittlecontrary · 15/02/2012 15:07

I generally don't post any links to anything anyway, never mind anything sexually explicit. But yes, I agree with having to take some responsibility if you add children as friends on FB. My 13 year old nephew added me and my husband. My husband asked me if I thought it was okay to add him so I said it was up to him but if he did he had a responsibility not to swear in his posts (doesn't swear all the time, but does sometimes). He chose not to add him!

MarriedInVegas · 15/02/2012 15:14

In my veiw the only thing fb is good for is spying on people! Thats all i really use it for anyway... Blush

TheDogTheDogHesAtItAgain · 15/02/2012 15:29

Are you sure the under-16s would have seen it, though? You can set up FB with controls on who can/can't see your wall posts.

A few of my dd's friends have "friended" me on FB - at that age they seem to "friend" all passing acquaintances, so I'm pretty sure they aren't interested in seeing my status updates. I cheerfully accept them all, and then put them all together in a group called "Kiddies" and ban that group from seeing anything on my wall. My own status updates are pretty tame, but I can't vouch for what some of my friends are going to post up there Blush.

hopenglory · 15/02/2012 15:34

maybe she manages her settings so that the teens can't see what she has posted?

Chundle · 15/02/2012 15:43

Tbh I don't agree with kids under 16 on fb. Lots of my mates kids are on fb and they range in age from 7 to 15 they have friend requested me and I decline everytime.

ABigGirlDoneItAndRanAway · 15/02/2012 15:58

I do think twice about what to put on facebook as I have family members on there and some of them are under 16, however if I was to have a moment of forgetfulness and post something inappropriate (recently put up a link to Go The Fuck To Sleep without thinking) then their parents don't really have a leg to stand on as they have allowed them on there, except perhaps in cases where the child has gone behing their back and in that case there are bigger problems than a bit of bad language.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 15/02/2012 16:11

YANBU - I dont accept any friendship requests from kids!

maddening · 15/02/2012 16:31

I am friends with my 16 and 14 year old cousins, I don't post anything sexual anyway - not something I would post whoever I was friends with but I do "like" friends posts which sometimes have swear words in and recently posted a link to the YouTube link of Samuel l Jackson reading "go the fuck to sleep " which maybe I shouldn't have on reflection.

My friend is an artist who does homo-erotic art and I am careful about liking some of his pieces as they are very explicit

TroublesomeEx · 15/02/2012 17:42

YANBU.

The only under 16 I have is my son. I would be happy to have friends DCs as friends if we were close.

My DS is friends with some of our adult friends and family members, so it's not unreasonable to think that an adult would have an under 16 as a friend on FB.

I'm not friends with anyone who posts sexually explicit stuff anyway.

catgirl1976 · 15/02/2012 18:39

I don't have any under 18s on my fb for this very reason.

Slartybartfast · 15/02/2012 18:43

i dont post sexually explicit stuff or anythign like to cause offence or raised eyebrows to my dc

Thetokengirl · 15/02/2012 18:45

I don't have any under 16's as friends on FB. In fact, you are not allowed a FB account if you are under 13, unless you lie about your DOB. A friend of mine wanted me to let my 10 yo get an account so he could keep in touch with her son, but I refused as I would want to keep an eye on his account but didn't want to friend him.

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lilolilmanchester · 15/02/2012 21:08

I asked her had she prevented all the children she has on her friends list seeing these posts and she told me to chill and get over myself .... she is very liberal with what her kids hear/see, I'm not so and am sure other parents aren't. Am not a prude either, just think children are children, and adults have a responsibility to treat them as such

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