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To feel so sad and alone on valentines day?

27 replies

MyLittleMiracle · 14/02/2012 20:46

Well some people on here already know me, so please dont out me, i made a permanent name change.

I feel so alone, its the first valentines day i have spent alone in about twelve years (since being 11ish), I always spent a night over my best friends or had a boyfriend, now i am doing neither, my best friend lives miles away and i am going through a divorce. I know i am better off physically mentally and emotionally without my ex, but feel very alone. :(

AIBU, just to want someone to come and give me a big hug, which is so very needed?

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MissSayuri · 14/02/2012 20:48

It's just another day, don't buy into the commercial crap, it'll destroy you.

CheerMum · 14/02/2012 20:48

hug

ILoveSanta · 14/02/2012 20:48

I will send you an e-hug.

I don't care if it's not very mn-ish! Sometimes it's needed!

CheerMum · 14/02/2012 20:49

and have these too...Thanks Wine

Shenanagins · 14/02/2012 20:49

Yanbu as it is only natural when going through a divorce. next year you will be painting the town red and glad to be free of him - it just takes time.

PrincessWellington · 14/02/2012 20:52

BiscuitBiscuitBiscuit have a cuppa with these. I would send you flowers but I can't.

madonnawhore · 14/02/2012 20:55

Dude, VD means fuck all. It's for high school kids with crushes.

For god's sake don't let a forced and tacky excuse for card companies to print money make you sad.

You need to stop buying into the bullshit and thinking that being alone is the worst thing in the world.

Fear of being alone is what makes women put up with shitty relationships with asshole men when they could be being awesome on their own.

Quit moping and do something really lovely just for you tonight. Put on a face pack, paint your nails, eat chocolate and watch a crap film, wash your hair, pour a glass of wine and download Whitney's greatest hits on itunes...

madonnawhore · 14/02/2012 20:55

PS: Have a hug ((squeeze))

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MyLittleMiracle · 14/02/2012 20:56

I sort of am glad to be free of him. I think its more my best friend, both past and present i am missing. Them valentines days as teenagers, depressed with no boyfriends, so watching a film with a tub of ice cream. God how i wish i could have those days back...and A

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MyLittleMiracle · 14/02/2012 20:59

I watched Marley and me! Maybe i should put something scary on like the exorcist and scare the stupidity out of me. I dont care about being without a bloke, its my best friend i care about being without! Think i need a girl mate to curl up onm a sofa with, watch old friends episodes and reminisce about the old days!

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BambinoBoo · 14/02/2012 21:02

You are bound to feel rubbish as you are mourning the end of a relationship, but try and think of it as an emotional hurdle that will be out of the way come morning. You will feel so much better and stronger when you wake up tomorrow.

Wine and Hugs to you.

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MyLittleMiracle · 14/02/2012 21:07

Thank you, everyone. x

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madonnawhore · 14/02/2012 21:07

It's true you can't beat your best girlie mates. Why not give one of them a call? If they can't be with you, I'm sure they'd be up for a phone gossip.

NorksAreMessy · 14/02/2012 21:09

OK, let's get positive.
What do you do hat makes you feel brilliant and proud of yourself?

Exercise, reading, learning something, grooming?
Let's get some self esteem and pride, sister. Reach in to that part of yourself that you are most proud of.

You don't need a man to make you complete!
You are perfect and brilliant and what's more, you don't need a pretend satin validation to make yourself feel good, you feel good because you Are YOU

Can I get an AMEN?

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MyLittleMiracle · 14/02/2012 21:11

I have had to cut all contact, i only had 1 Girlie friend i trusted and she was my ex's friends long term partner, and we were great friends, but i was worried he would take her phone and pass my phone number on! So we are only on msn together, or facebook, in castle ville, and have a girlie code so we know its each other!

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MyLittleMiracle · 14/02/2012 21:13

What always used to make me feel good and laugh if you will, was walking down the lane to the stables to ride horses, on a warm day with it chucking it down with rain!

We dont need men, just need a decent hug! Male or female...or even a dog!

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NorksAreMessy · 14/02/2012 21:15

miracle that is a lovely happy memory.
horses are v. Good for hugging and talking to.

Now, what are you going to do to get that feeling back? Do you still ride?

cyb · 14/02/2012 21:15

Valentines Day is for losers. Do you think we are all mooning over each other in soppy restaurants?

ArielNonBio · 14/02/2012 21:16

YANBU to want a hug, as we all do from time to time, but if I could ban Valentine's Day I would pass the legislation tomorrow. It's crap!

You don't need cards, flowers, or a chap to make you worthwhile. You are anyway, independently.

madonnawhore · 14/02/2012 21:24

I don't think it's very nice to celebrate a day that excludes a whole swathe of people.

Or, look at it this way: V day is about LOVE, not about COUPLES. So love yourself.

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MyLittleMiracle · 14/02/2012 21:42

I dont go riding any more, gave it up when i moved away from london, but maybe i should go and give one a hug!

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NorksAreMessy · 14/02/2012 21:53

Hug a horse!
Life is too short not to do the things that make you truly contented.

Is there a horse-hugging centre nearby?

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MyLittleMiracle · 14/02/2012 21:59

Wish there was, maybe i will just walk down stables lane in bexley, and hug the first horse i see! Just hope it doesnt bite me, maybe i should take some polos and sugar cubes!

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issey6cats · 14/02/2012 22:02

its just one day am in the same position as you , i have so far in the last couple of months done the first christmas, new year and today on my own and crappy as it is i will still be here tommorow and tommorow will be a better day than today was,

so say bah humbug to today and just remind yourself that its just an excuse for lots of companies to make loads of dosh out of people who think they should make an effort and think of how many women in bad relationships would envy you having the peace and freedom to do what you like today,

anyone on here who is in a good relationship i hope you have all had a great day and all been treated the way you should be :o

manicinsomniac · 14/02/2012 22:06

Bahhh, humbug!

I have NEVER been in a relationship on valentines day. NEVER

But, YANBU. It is shit. You need alcohol!