To not want visitors in our bedroom?

[NoFoodwithaFace]

PIL came over for lunch a few days ago. 6mo DS played with them for a while and DP put him down for a nap in his cot (in our room). While I was cooking, MIL said, "I'm just going to check on the baby" and kept going in and out of our bedroom! We only live in a flat, so there is no need to keep checking on him, I could hear him perfectly well and go in every ten minutes myself anway.

Complained to DP about how intrusive I felt her behaviour was. I just think if you invite people into your home, they should have abit of respecct for personal areas. (Especially as I did a bit of, OMG PIL are coming, shove EVERYTHING in our room to keep up a pretence of cleanliness). And our clothes horse was up in there, with all my pants on display!

Am I over-reracting a bit? I feel like saying something to her next time!

YANBU about the bedroom.

But why do you check on your DS every ten minutes when he's asleep?

No, just do online only OTT.

Some people have no boundaries. We had the PILs visit us when my DTs were 2 weeks old. My MIL walked straight into my bedroom when I was in bed tandem breastfeeding (topless) to borrow my hairdryer, didn't even knock or back out when she saw me. My FIL walked straight into the nursery where I was using a double breast pump (again topless) without knocking, and the DTs were not even in there so no idea why he came in anyway.

Why does your MIL take it upon herself to check them anyway, that would annoy me more than the instrusion of going in your room!

I think she just thinks of it a DP's bedroom and therefore she's always just gone in. Notice I wrote 'visitors' not just MIL for those who are accusing me of that!
I complained to DP but he saw no problem at all. I just like having our little snug room and don't think people should just go in without even asking. Its not even about what was in there more just I think we need some kind of boundaries/privacy.

And I check on him loads because he'll only sleep in his cot if he has oneof my pillows in with him and he's on his front so I get paranoid!

this could really take off! I am sure there are more people like us out there sparkling.

Yes MIL just taking it upon herself to check on DS (and bring him into the living room when he woke up but hadn't finished nap time) is a different issue!!

I have major personal space issues OTT. I have often said I want an invisible force field for 'close talking' people to bang their head on.

NoFood, invading your bedroom and fishing the baby out of the cot. I would be

I am glad I am not the only one who feels weird when people go into my bedroom.

I feel weird going to other peoples rooms too.

Even when people say, come on in, or oh, could you just pop upstairs and get such and such from my room, i reply, actually i'd rather not if thats ok.
It gives me the heebies going into another adults bedroom.
I don't like people in my face either sparkling but even when i have inched away until my back is against the wall they still don't get it!
I used to go shopping at 2am a few years back so i didn't get bumped into, good god that used to really make me on a weekend, people just bumbling along like bees smashing into each other

I also felt like yacking a few days ago when a really stinky young man fell onto my hand holding a rail on the bus, i whipped my hand away so fast but his arse still slammed up onto it, ugh!

A 6 month old really shouldn't have a pillow in his cot.

Our bed room is universal dumping ground when we have visitors, the door is shut and hopefully no one enters.

But dotting Granny and new baby YABTotallyU.

I agree with OTT.....I am the queen of anti social. In fact i don't always want my dh in OUR room.

YANBU. I don't like anyone going into our bedroom either.

Yes, your MIL wanted to check on her grandchild, but imo she should have asked your permission first (to go into your bedroom I mean). I would never go into someone's bedroom without their permission. It's not about what may or may not be in there, it's about respect for a person's privacy.