HappyMummy - those who are on Workfare DO NOT GET WTC. OR THEIR CHILDCARE COSTS COVERED. So they are NOT working for their JSA - they are PAYING OUT WAY MORE THAN THEIR JSA IN CHILDCARE COSTS. They can't afford to FEED their dc while they are bdoing Workfare.
'Children are not a right, parents bring them into the world knowing they are going to be responsible for the next 18 years at least. Therefore if you have them knowing you cant financially support them then benefits and tax credits are supporting a lifestyle choice.' - So you ARE saying that people WORKING FULL-TIME for NMW can't have ANY children. Despite working their socks off for their crappy wages.
WHY do you think it is fine for business to profit from their work by not paying them a living wage, yet think that they should somehow be barred from having children.
I had ONE child after being diagnosed. NOT while my Ex-Partner was unemployed - he was working VERY hard, FULL-TIME. When I had an accidental pregnancy (contraception failure due to epilepsy meds if you must know), was I meant to do something that would be against my PERSONAL BELIEFS (i.e. termination, which, to me, is unthinkable, as I feel that a baby is a person from the moment of conception, and therefore has the right to life). Termination was against my personal beliefs when I was a HRT payer - and was STILL against my personal beliefs when I was reliant on TC's, and is STILL against my personal beliefs now that I am reliant on out-of-work benefits.
I ALREADY HAD 3 dc prior to my diagnosis. I was working FT, in a job that paid enough for me to pay HRT. I had £20k worth of savings. It doesn't last forever...
OK, the fourth child I could have terminated. Though the thought is anathema to me. BUT, my partner at the time was working ft, and we felt that the negative MENTAL effects I would suffer if I killed my baby, would be WORSE than me continuing with the pregnancy. That has NOTHING to do with whether we were receiving Tax Credits or not.
And we would have STILL made the same decision even if there WERE no Tax Credits to help us to feed and clothe DS3. Because we didn't make the decision based on MONEY, but on a mental health basis.
It's not MY fault that he later chose to walk out on me, is it? Was there something I could have done to prevent him walking out? Nope, that was HIS decision.
I have already tried to go back to work once in the 8 months since he left me - I had to leave after 3 weeks. My town has ONE SN childminder, who had my Autistic 13yo DD for just ONE DAY before she gave me notice. I cannot find ANY other childcare suitable for a 13yo dc with SN.
I WANT to work. I WILL work - when DD is 16yo, she should be able to be left at home alone for 2-3 hrs after college. By that point, DS1 will not need ANY childcare, DS2 will only require after-school childcare, and DS3 will be getting the Nursery Vouchers for 3yo's. THEN I will go back to work. But NOT on Workfare. I will NOT go out to work for LESS than NMW. EVER.