to say DD can't have any cake?

[QueenOfFeckingEverything]

Cake sale after school today - I bought various cakes before DD (8) came out of school. They had no change on the stall at that point, so I said to keep it and that DD could choose a cake to the value of the change when she came out. DD came out and chose a small cake, and then I had to go and talk to her teacher.

While talking to the teacher, DD was hovering round doing her Sad Face at me - I told her to wait patiently, she huffed at me and wandered off across the playground, muttering about how unfair it was that she only got one cake yada yada humfybumf.

After speaking to the teacher, I found DD eating more cake. Turned out one of the other mums had taken pity on her (she'd been whining about how the other children were all getting more cake than she'd had) and given her 50p (which buys a lot of cake, but stupid cake sale pricing is a whole other thread). I found the other mum, thanked her, and offered her 50p back but she laughed and wouldn't accept it. Then she told me (still laughing) that after she'd given DD the money, DD had said to her 'Haha, my begging face worked on you' to which the other mum had said she'd remember that next time, and DD had gone on to say 'No you won't, adults never remember anything'. I was and apologised rather a lot.

I'm pissed off and have told DD so - I think that was rude, ungrateful, and greedy. I now have cakes that were to be shared after tea, but I don't think DD should have any more after that display of cake-fuelled rudeness. AIBU?

I've got an 8 year old, and if he'd have done that, he wouldn't have got any cake either.
Don't agree with the poster saying 'kids will be kids', well that just makes them think they can get away with being rude to other adults.
It's not like you hadn't let your dd HAVE any cake. She did have some. I wouldn't have been impressed with the cheekiness of my ds if he had said that to an adult either.

This is all very clear cut...

Of course the cheeky little madam doesn't get any of the cakes you bought to have after tea!

Very conniving and manipulative for an 8 year old...I would say

She needs to learn!

Yanbu. My dd1 did something similar at a party, begged 20p from a friend of mine to put in a crappy slot machine thing after I told her no, I was mortified. The friend thought it was funny but that is so not the point, it was so rude and not to be encouraged

YANBU - no cake for her, and she needs to know other people did get to eat the cakes (I would eat hers in front of her). It was very rude and she needs to learn very quickly that's not acceptable.

You would eat hers in front of her?

''I would eat hers in front of her'' Really???

If your DD had gone up to the other mum and "begged" her to buy her some cake then yes, with or without the cheeky comment I would have been annoyed at her about that. The cheeky comment on it's own could have been kind of funny, it depends on the tone of voice!

lydia, I think it is very childish and petty to eat the cake in front of her.

Do you not think this is a lovely girl with a great sense of humour?

Because I do. She will go far.

'I would eat hers in front of her'

And er, what exactly does that teach her? Is that from the book of spiteful parenting?

I agree with Almostfifty.

I'm with worra - always the voice of reason.

Problem solved.

Sounds to me like she just thought she was playing along and amusing the grown ups. Tell her maybe not to be manipulative if you want. But if the other mother found it funnym she can't have been being all that rude.

I think this is a bit mountain out of a molehill really.

I am amazed reading some of these responses.

It was VERY rude and disrespectful. I would have been mortified if my child had spoken to an adult in this way and there certainly would have been a consequence and a talking-to.

And no, cheekiness in children is NOT ok.

Kids get it wrong though, they think they're being witty and entertaining and the grown ups like it, and then they get slapped down and are mortified. Tell her that was cheeky and to be more obviously polite next time, but not the cake eating in front of her for gods sake!