DH has started smoking a pipe

[LaCoccinelle]

This is more of a 'is DH being unreasonable', because there isn't actually a lot I can do about it other than sulk. DH has got himself a pipe, he used to smoke the odd cigarette but has not done so since we have been together (he has asthma so it's a Very Bad Idea to smoke), I do not smoke, never have, and hate the smell, I am also a sneezy allergic type and get runny nose/eyes etc around smoke. We also have 2 young DCs, I don't want smoke around them.

He's mentioned he'd like a pipe before and I have said that I absolutely do not want it to happen in the house, if he must smoke he can do it outside, and he should bear in mind I will not come near him while he stinks of tobacco.

This morning his study smells very strongly of tobacco and there is a pipe on the desk. So what do I do - is he BU? Do I have to just accept this new 'hobby'? or should I leave the bastard?

Seriously - do feel for you. He is being VERY unreasonable and is out of order.

Like to see him debate the smoking/cancer subject if he has to have his tongue removed due to proven links between pipe smoking and oral cancers.I worked for 10 years in oncology and believe me the radical,painfull surgery is only the beginning of the tortuous treatment required.Besides that it's antisocial and minging.

Hmm, judging by comments on this thread I should probably namechange before posting.. But, my dh smokes a pipe, always has done. He too is a bit of an "intellectual" type and certainly loves Sherlock! While I wish he would stop, I am glad he smokes this rather than fags, and pipe smokers generally smoke less often than cigarette smokers. However he hasn't smoked in the house since I first found out I was pregnant, so that's about 5 years now of smoking in the garden (he really wants a shed!)

I think you should knit him a cardigan and sew leather elbow patches on it too, to go with his pipe....

Seriously, he can hold whatever view he wants re smoking but if it is a non-smoking home and you have children he should respect that; stick to your guns.