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Original poster

to be annoyed that my six year old came home from school without most of her clothes?

31 replies

faeriemoo · 09/02/2012 20:11

DD is a bad dresser in general - usually takes her over 30 minutes to get dressed for school of a morning, but with a little encouragement, job's done.

She came home from school this afternoon without her jumper (not unusual, happens several times a week), but also without her pinafore. So, yes, she came home from school with only her shirt and tights on.

Apparently they had gym this afternoon, but had time back in the classroom afterwards and before coming home. She thinks she left it on the back of her chair.

AIBU to expect that the teacher should probably have noticed a half-naked six year old leaving the classroom today?

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kodachrome · 09/02/2012 20:14

Didn't you just go back in and get it?

LynetteScavo · 09/02/2012 20:14

If they had gym last thing and the DC got their coats straight after getting changed, I can see how it happened.

I bet the teacher was standing there at 4pm staring like this Shock Confusedat the pinafore Grin

At what point did you realise she wasn't wearing her pinafore?

Original poster
faeriemoo · 09/02/2012 20:19

I realised when her dad brought her home to me at 7pm! He picked her up from school, and he didn't notice until she'd taken off her coat when he took her home, because he's not the brightest spark Wink

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Original poster
faeriemoo · 09/02/2012 20:20

According to DD, though gym was in the afternoon, they had about 15 minutes ("one or two episodes of Horrid Henry LOL) after getting dressed before they put their coats on at home time.

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tigerlillyd02 · 10/02/2012 03:05

Wow, never known a half dressed child be sent home before. I can see how it happened though if PE was last thing but still quite surprised!

sashh · 10/02/2012 03:49

So it's unreasonable for the teacher to not notice one in 30 chiildren but it's OK for her dad to not notice?

Note to teacher - please ensure my child is dressed before leaving school should be OK

nooka · 10/02/2012 06:01

I could so imagine my ds doing this at that age :) he did often put his clothes on inside out/back to front, or got dressed in other children's clothes without noticing. It does seem a little surprising that no one noticed, but hopefully your dd now realizes that putting her clothes on when told is a good idea. I wonder if the children were sitting on the carpet for the reading. It's quite possible that the teacher thought that she had trousers/a skirt and just didn't twig that she hadn't put her pinafore on because sitting cross legged in tights with a bundle of other uniformed children the missing clothes might just have blended into the background. I would mention it, but I don't think it's worth kicking up a fuss about.

LovesBeingWearingSkinnyJeans · 10/02/2012 06:03

Bet there's a teachers forum somewhere with a thread titled "guess what was left in my classroom today?" Grin

TroublesomeEx · 10/02/2012 06:28

Sorry but 6 yo capable of dressing themselves is capable of knowing they don't have all their clothes on.

Dad's responsibility to notice if not.

What is this year 1? Year 2?

I would not expect to have to check under every child's coat to check they'd got themselves dressed properly! Most children would be outraged at the thought of going home knowing they weren't fully dressed.

I would go in and ask for the pinafore, but wouldn't complain.

YABU!

TroublesomeEx · 10/02/2012 06:30

nooka someone else's clothes/clothes inside out it one thing, but missing item of clothing? Really?

CailinDana · 10/02/2012 06:33

I think it's safe for a teacher to assume that if all the children are sitting happily on the carpet, then they're all fully dressed! It's very easy to miss something like that, especially in the last few minutes of the day which can be quite manic if letters need to be handed out, homework sorted, stuff put away etc. If her own dad didn't notice, then you can't really complain can you!

south345 · 10/02/2012 06:36

My 6 year old ds lost his trousers yesterday! He came home in his pe ones instead though, he's terrible for throwing them all over though and the snow was really bad so I will find them today.

Sirzy · 10/02/2012 06:38

Dark tights and a t shirt I can understand why, unless she was working with the teacher on a 1-1 level it would be missed.

I find it stranger her dad didn't notice at all

KittyFane · 10/02/2012 06:46

DD (8) often comes home missing clothes. Never her dress though!

kodachrome : Didn't you just go back in and get it?
Not all parents do the school run you know. CM are less vigilant.

ohbugrit · 10/02/2012 06:47

I'm astonished that your DD didn't notice/remember. I haven't got a 6 year old but my 4 year old wouldn't overlook that, even in the distracting chaos of the cloakroom.

And yes, I am quite surprised that the teacher gets the blame instead of her dad!

nooka · 10/02/2012 06:53

ds has never cared about what he wears very much. If asked about the suitability of wearing inside out back to front clothes he's liable to say that no one will notice. dd on the other hand is very particular. So I can kind of imagine a child forgetting to finish dressing. I can also see how it might be overlooked, depending on the situation - although I would have expected another kid might have piped up about it. I just think this is one of those things that occasionally happens.

Dustinthewind · 10/02/2012 06:56

'And yes, I am quite surprised that the teacher gets the blame instead of her dad!'

I'm not! Grin
If she takes ages to get dressed, it couyld be that the teacher was reading the other 29 a story whilst your daughter faffed around putting on her clothes, and then your beloved had to put on her coat and get ready to leave. She might never have made it to the carpet.

OlderNotWiser · 10/02/2012 06:56

Excuse me kitty! Whay are CM less vigilant? [shocked]

Personally I would be talking to the child. Perfectly capable of getting dressed at 6.

OlderNotWiser · 10/02/2012 06:57

grr, Shock even!

Dustinthewind · 10/02/2012 06:59

Odd that the other children didn't notice she'd forgotten her pinafore if she was on the carpet, they like to have a giggle at that age. Whilst feeling smug they've got their shoes on the right feet.

Feenie · 10/02/2012 07:01

And yes, I am quite surprised that the teacher gets the blame instead of her dad!

On MN? I'm not!

KittyFane · 10/02/2012 07:08

Older :o

Sorry that should have read 'my' or 'some' CM, (well, afterschool mini bus bloke to be precise) are less vigilant.
No offence intended!

sunnydelight · 10/02/2012 07:50

You say your DD is a "bad dresser in general" as if that's where your responsibility ends. Maybe you need to help her not to be, it's a basic skill that can be practiced and mastered like a lot of other practical ones. Boring but necessary.

Bonkerz · 10/02/2012 07:54

My DD once came home without her tights on.... No biggee really till she started trying to do forward rolls and I noticed she had no knickers on either! PE had been straight after registration in the morning!!!!!!! Commando all day in a skirt!!!!!!Blush. I now make her wear shorts under her skirt!!

diddl · 10/02/2012 08:29

If she was wearing a coat, why would her dad notice before she took it off?

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