To be scared of SS come knocking on my door??

[scared321]

I have a DS who is 2 and am 26 weeks pregnant with no.2. My DS is a mischievious little monkey, loves climbing and jumping and running like any normal kid. Well yesterday, he was running and tripped, landing on the coffe table corner and it resulted in a cut in his head. It didnt look deep, didnt bleed much, swelled quite quickly and he cried for a few minutes and was fine. But I wasnt, so took him straight to the local emergency walk-in clinic place. Just to be safe.

The nurse who checked him made me feel really uncomfortable, she was unsmiling, stared at me when i walked in but I explained to her properly what happened and tried to not let he accusing stares bother me. She looked at her computer and raised her eyebrows and stated 'well he had a similar fall 6 months ago,didnt he?' errr yes, and believe it or not it was the same wretched coffee table, we moved it out of the way after the first occurrence but its rotten luck he landed on it again. The HV did a follow up visit and had no concerns. [Since yesterday we got rid of table completely and given it to a friend (who has NO children)].

Anyway the nurse glued DS's cut and he was totally fine and happy as if it had never happenend. I felt reassured. When we were about to leave, she said 'you do know if he hurts himself like this again, it'll get flagged up'. I am still mortified by her words, I was too upset to ask what she meant but know it sounds bloody serious. I was in tears all evening, didnt sleep last night though DS slept great (i checked on him almost hourly). Sorry about my rambling, i havent slept and been worryingmyself sick. Being pregnant and hormonal is definitly not helping. Maybe am over-reacting.

Should i be so worried? What if he falls again despite me watching him like a hawk? Anyone had any experience of a child falling 3 times and 'getting flagged'?
Please be nice, I feel a failure as it is.

I asked on what grounds was the accusation based on? The ward sister on childrens ward explained that because my dd aged 7 had shown the doctor when requested exactly where the pain was by slightly moving the elastic of her knickers and pointing it was a sign of sexualised behaviour . And because the pain was in her right groin and in her hip they assumed she was being abused.

Apparantly a normal child would have just told him but as she was sky high on morphine she wasnt very coherant!

The ward sister was very nice and said try not to worry, you are not under surveilance on this ward, if they were that concerned child protection would be here quite quickly.

it was a terrible time. I so wanted to go up to the doctor in casualty after the scan showed fluid on her hip and say fuck you but of course that would not have been a good idea

I have been to our local minor injuries unit with my guys that they now greet me by name when we walk in .

All that happens is my HV gives me a ring to discuss what has happened and tick all the boxes. Haven't had SS arrive at the door yet.

TBH its a faf having to go through the same thing each time with the HV but I am happy they do follow it up - maybe, just maybe it might help a child who is in danger......

So it should. This is not a dig at you or any other parent wiht normal active kids who find themsleves in A+E (like myself) but I would rather know there is a system in place to protect children.

Where I used to live it was any visit would be looked into.

Of course that will deter loving parents seeking treatment for accident prone children, but it wouldn't deter abusers who don't generally take their kids to a&e. That just makes no sense to me.

That's the point, when some one walks into A&E it isn't apparent who is an abuser and who is a loving parent of a clumsy child. Abusers do take children to hospital Victoria Climbe was seen in multiple A&E departments before her death, each time with a seemingly plausible explanation.

That is why this policy is useful and proportionate, parents in A&E don't have labels on their foreheads. A brief check doesn't imply guilt and as a previous poster said, the overwhelming majority require no further action. However it could be a lifeline for those that do.

DS fell into one of those glass TV cabinets when he'd just learned to walk and cut his forehead. The trip to A&E was awful as I seemed to be eyed suspiciously and came across a miserable nurse who appeared to be disgusted with me and told me it'd be referred. I never heard anything at all from it though but it put me off A&E altogether. Luckily we've never needed to go again for an accident, although he's only 2.3 so plenty of time I'm sure. He was taken in by ambulance recently with Croup (I'm assuming illnesses are different?) and they were all extremely lovely on that occasion.