To have a ^huge^ crush on DCs teacher...

[Actinglikeateenager]

Because I feel like I'm going a bit mental...

Am (happily) married and definitely wouldn't act on it, btw.

When I first met DC's new teacher I remember thinking 'mmm he's quite yummy' but then thought no more of it. Fast forward to about a month ago and DCs class put on a show, and afterwards the parents had the chance to look around the class at the costumes, etc they'd made. I couldn't help noticing that DCs teacher seemed to single me out a bit and kept chatting to me - and stood a bit closer than 'normal' - and had very twinkly smiley eyes.... And pathetic as it sounds, having been married a loooooooong time, I enjoyed the attention from another man and (possibly) was a bit flirty.

Since then I've definitely caught him looking over at me morning & afternoon in the playground - and last week after school he came over and started chatting to me - conversation was something like

him: 'hello how are you'

me: 'Oh no, what's she (DD's name) done?' (laughing)

him: 'oh nothing, (she's) doing great - I just saw you standing here shiverring away and thought I'd come and say hi'

blah blah blah....

When he talks to me he definitely has a flirty twinkle in his eye and there is alot of eye contact and smileyness.

The problem is though, why can't I just think 'ooh this is nice' and then forget it and get on with my day? Why have I (over the last few days) found myself thinking about him all the time, playing sloppy songs on my ipod and generally acting like a 15 year old when i fancied George Michael?

I would never cheat on my DH, I love him and the thought of anyone coming between us (on either side) is devastating. So what's wrong with my head? And am I just reading too much into his friendly-ness anyway?

Someone slap me.

OffMeTrolley just reminded me about that Peter Kay John Smiths advert when he says 'Claire from work'.

Maybe he does fancy you, maybe he doesn't and is just an egotistical letch. I suspect the latter, or a mixture of both.

I find something rather creepy in any teacher flirting with a parent who's married... call me old fashioned, but I'd need to scrub myself down (after some naught thoughts).

Well I think a bit of a crush is a lovely thing to have, so there

Speaking as someone who's been blissfully married to The Nicest Man on Earth for 12 years, I hasten to add.

Jeez, I have news for you people: you don't get chemically castrated the minute you settle down!

No slapping from me OP, unless you make an arse of yourself one way or another. In which case I'll oblige with the full double-hander

What the? Has flirting been banned now?

I'm never getting married again if I can't have a flirt with someone ever again.

Oh I agree there's nowt wrong with having a crush, I just think when it tips over into a school setting reality that it becomes a bit ick.

I should explain. Some mums at another school have a massive crush on one of the male teachers, and have made fools of themselves when tipsy in front of their children and his wife at the 'family disco' it was really cringeworthy. The teacher was lapping it up, which was double cringey.

ah that's the 'Making an arse of yerself' behaviour I mention

Leaning on the wall glowering seductively in manner of Charlotte Gainsbourg or similar: not making an arse.

Quite. Nice to flick through a different genre now and then. As it were.

Or maybe not read the book at all, only the rude bits.

Ooh no, I'm a huge advocate of crushes and a bit of flirting and the like. Not sexual flirting, just the light hearted stuff.

But teachers at your DCs school are off limits.

They will talk about you for years to come and your DCs are at the school for many many years! No. Escape!

It is fine if he is Hengist Brett-Taylor. Or a hunky rugger teacher.
Those are the rules.

THey'll talk about it for years to come in the playground?

What? Talking to a teacher? OP hasn't as yet done the or the has she? Isn't she just chatting?

Ask him if he wants a bit of hubba hubba and see

No ShirleyO, they'll only talk about it if the OP isn't careful and embarrasses herself.

And she wanted a slap, not reassurances she was doing the right thing!

So, Folkgirl, are you saying she should not do the LickyFingerNipple thing on the playground?

SPOILSPORT!

'just because you've bought a book doesn't mean you can't go to the Library' I love that Beertricks

You should do him, totally. This will give your children something real to be embarrassed by.

Shirley She probably shouldn't make eyes at him while nibbling suggestively at the remains of her DC's Greggs sausage roll either

Am enjoying this thread way too much - that's not good is it? Although it is helping me to see it as a bit of a laugh and not a big drama (as I can be a bit of a drama-queen...).

No I don't like the thought of DH fancying (and flirting with) other people - but then if you could see inside everybody else's head, wouldn't everybody be thinking slightly dodgy things? (Please say it's not just me ).

I think I'm a bit at myself because my (usually very open) crushes are always aimed at celebs - so are v harmless, however much oggling and leering I do at them (usually in front of DH - who isn't remotely bothered btw).

And yes I know it's icky that it's DC's teacher, but he is yummy - trust me. Not in a rugger way, that is, but in a very poetic velvet shirt way.....

But so far I've managed to leave any sucky fingers, nipples and other body parts out of the equation. It's hard not to reciprocate on the heavy duty eye-contact though - he does have lovely eyes - but I will try

He's not called Gareth Malone, is he? If he is, it will be you and me, and pistols at dawn in the playground!

Ooh no he's not - but please tell me more - are you also indulging in a bit of playground-slappering?

OP I am happily and monogamously engaged to be married but still have an embarrassing crush on a guy on my training course.

I haven't found myself lasciviously licking drops of the side of a Fruit Shoot at him yet though

Well OP I nearly fell off my chair when I saw this thread because I am feeling just the same about dd's teacher - except that he is really shy with parents and apart from some good eye contact I have no reason to feel like this. Been feeling thoroughly teenager-like and pathetic for a couple of months, it is actually starting to get me down because I know I have to get back to reality and I think it's the first time in my life I've felt like this and not been able to act upon it. Nice to know I'm not alone.