HV seemed appalled I was back at work.

[WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid]

Took 1 year old dd to the HV for a weigh in. She commented it had been a while since I had taken her 3 (months). I explained that was when I returned to work.
She asked me what days I didn't work (assumed I was part time). I said Saturday and Sunday, I work full time. She looked appalled at this and wanted to know why work had not allowed me to go back part time.

Surely it can't be all that uncommon to go back full time at 9 months.

I was back at work,full-time, after six weeks. My mum had to take my Ds to all his health checks and for his jabs. It upset me at the time but was unavoidable. Looking at him now, a strapping 16 yr old, it doesn't seem to have done him any harm. Although I still get very bitter envious when I hear how much time the new mums get off where I work now.

I went back at 6 eeks after DD, 13 weeks after DS1 and 6 months after DS2. And worked until 39+5 with DS2.

MW was a little concerned, but all was well. Only judgy pants came from co-workers, often childless ones. Wankers. I would not have done it if I hadn't had to.

In order to qualify as an HV you have to be the least suitable sort of person, diplomacy-, common-sense-, knowledge- and compassion-wise.

They basically ensure you have none of those skills whatsoever, and only then will they appoint you.

Ignore, ignore, ignore. And then ignore some more. And then remember you have absolutely no reason to have dealings with this person and stop goin to see them.

I saw my HV twice and am baffled as to why anyone would see one more often than this.

Also baffled by "taking your baby for a weigh in". Do you not have scales at home fgs?

EFA also don't understand this. Surely you can take your baby for a check up at the GP's if you are worried they are losing weight or smething, why do you need to have someone else weigh them for you?

Mine was a bit like this when I told her I intended to work up to my due date At the end of the day it's nothing to do with her, not her decision. Only you know what's best for you, she has no right to judge.

EFA I took DS1 for weigh ins nearly every week. If you missed 2 weeks in a row without telling the HV first they would ring or come to the house to see why you hadn't been to get the baby weighed.

With DS2 I took him once a month until he was 6 months old. I ignored the phone calls and told them I didn't want him weighing when they turned up.

I might take DD(due in June) once or twice as its DPs first baby but I doubt it.

Best not take the risk of confrontations with appalled looking HVs, bad enough all these little old ladies that keep giving mumsnetters funny looks.
Weigh your baby at home. For those who don't know how- buy cheap stand on scales from Tesco, get on scales and weigh yourself, write it down.
Undress baby, or not depending on how accurate you want to be, hold baby and get on scales again. Subtract first weight from second weight and you're left with baby's wt. Read instructions in red book if you want to plot wt on centile chart
Or don't bother weighing, nothing bad will happen.

None of her business. Stop going to the HV unless you actually need to. For healthy children I think they mostly are good for sleep, weaning and behaviour advice, and very limited healthcare advice (though generally just say to see your GP if concerned).

When I took DD to the HV to ask about a minor rash at about 8 months, she was surprised that I didn't want her weighed. I couldn't be bothered with getting her undressed and dressed again just for my own curiosity. The HV said to come back in weeks for DD to be weighed and I said that I wouldn't be back in 6 weeks as I could see that DD looked about right. In all honesty the HV looked relieved as I don't think that she wanted to be weighing obviously healthy babies for the sake of drawing a graph.

The nursery nurse at DD's 12 month check suggested coming back in 6 months as that would be enough data to plot a reasonable looking graph.

Grrr! I asked my nanny to take DS2 to be weighed. She called up and the HV said it had to be his mother. FFS - he's only being weighed.

Ignore her.

Breatheslowly

Don't even get me started on advice re sleep. All mine says is she can only advise on controlled crying and nothing else. I pointed out the the information leaflet she gave me said the HVs would be happy to discuss other options if the parents were not comfortable with cc.
She just said nothing else really works. I started co sleeping and the whole house gets much more sleep now.