Paranoid I know, that's what I meant too but from the other way around.
"I would be upset and angry about this too, would changing things around a bit help him get over this as he is depressed?" replied to with "How do you people even have children when you find sex so disgusting? My friends have sex in my child's bedroom every day! You are like a Victorian!"
There is a fine balance and I think I'm with you in the middle ground. I wouldn't have sex, or want friends to sneak off and have sex, in my three year old's bedroom. I wouldn't banish them forever if they did, but I wouldn't be outside the door cheering them on because sex is a beautiful thing either. I don't think you need to be called disgusting but I don't need to be called repressed either, just because we said similar things in a different way.
And FWIW, it really annoys me when someone deliberately misunderstands something on purpose in this way, just for the sole reason of belittling a poster and trying to make them look stupid.
I saw it on another thread when someone abbreviated something to just the initials (not BFF instead of Best Friend Forever, but something similar). In the context of the post it was obvious what was meant by BFF but people were queuing up just to rant at the person "BFF? What's BFF? Best Friend Fairycake? Best Friend Flying? I can't understand a word you are posting! Write properly."
They knew exactly what she meant. They'd gotten two of the three words, it's not a great stretch of the imagination to come up with the third, they just wanted to snark at someone for the fun of it.
And it happened to me once when I said that if someone knocks on my front door I will shut our dog in the living room to stop her running out when I open it and getting onto the road outside. Within just a couple of posts I was accused of saying all dog owners should keep their dogs locked away forever and had a group of frothers screeching at me because keeping a dog off a main road 'for it's own safety' meant I was part of an idiot brigade who think all dogs are just waiting to rip out the throats of the innocent and belonged in cages if they were allowed to live at all.
Um...no. There's a big difference between "shut the dog in the living room for a minute" and "lock it in a cage forever." But when I reacted and said I just wanted to keep my dog from getting run over, I was the one who was called names and sneered at and leapt on and finally accused of frothing myself, which was probably what they were going for all along, since it turned out one of them had been banned for it before.
So I agree, the frothers are very good at only reading what they want to read. But it works from both sides and it is really annoying.