To wonder why so many people here can't see a difference between:

[TheParanoidAndroid]

This is completely ok/fine by me

and

This is not on/rather disgusting/etc but not worth getting into such a massive state ie calling the police or razing the building to the ground?

Not a thread about a thread, more a general feeling from a great number of threads. So many responders seem to believe if you aren't actively frothing berserk then you just aren't on the Right Side. We just can't all get ramped up to 90 over every little thing. Or even big things.

Its very annoying.

thats boredom, not getting worked up. And I said Shuddup (light hearted) rather than SHUT UP! (mean and frothy).

Android I now have visions of a new reality show "Extreme Cock", now showing on Dave TV. I can hear the theme music...

Is this about the How do You Wipe Your Arse thread?

theres a how do wipe your arse thread? And people are frothing on it?

the mind boggles!

1: anonymity makes people behave in more extreme ways, they don't try to soften their words so much, don't feel so worried about socially unacceptable behaviour/opinions
2: in order to get noticed people will often try to outdo a previous opinion, otherwise they fear their voice gets lost in the hubbub. Lots of threads may start fairly neutral but gradually polarise and become ever more extreme as time goes on (and more balanced posters retire ) - resulting in Godwin's Law

Tis the internet!

*theres a how do wipe your arse thread? And people are frothing on it?

the mind boggles!*

bold fail

Nobody was frothing last time I looked at the How do You Wipe Your Arse thread, but these threads can change direction so quickly...

I thought someone had turned on the 'downhill skiers'.

You say it's not about a thread, it's about lots of threads. I'll take a guess that one of those threads is the sex in a baby's bedroom one.

Because there was another extreme on that thread too, where some people can't tell the difference between "I would be upset and angry if friends had sex in my baby's bedroom too" and "I am a Victorian and sex disgusts me" and some of those posters went a bit frothy themselves in the rush to say how repressed it is to mind someone having sex in your child's bedroom.

All people have different feelings and what bothers one person would not bother another.

It's not that difference that has people 'frothing' it's the way some posters feel the need to jump up and down shouting "how disgusting you are!" or "how repressed are you?" to anyone who feels even slightly differently to them. It's not surprising that people get a bit frothy when they are jumped on and judged for no good reason.

I think that forums, by dint of their anonymity, attract people that are willing (indeed seeking) to have an argument. They delight in trying to make people that don't subscribe to their viewpoint look stupid, try to patronise them and attempt to make them look as if they are making an enormous mountain out of a molehill (no matter how reasonable the poster or how serious the circumstances). Hyperbole drips from their every post.
Unfortunately, until internet forums no longer attract people looking to take out their aggression anonymously, this will continue happening. There are some posters on MN who are routinely unnecessarily combative and abusive to every poster they disagree with and I do wonder if it's time they found themselves a hobby

Who mentioned rhubarb and custard? I hate those two! They make my blood boil! In fact I am thinking of leaving mumsnet because of them, they are completely out of order the whole fucking time, always stating the bleeding obvious, taking over threads, frothing and beserking everywhere doing the whole "disgruntled of Tunbridge Wells" act I mean who the fuck do they think they are?

anyways, you are wrong. What often seems like a small thing to us outsiders looking in, is a huge problem to them writing about it. And my massive bugbear which is guaranteed to get me raging, is when someone implies that I've said something which I haven't or they do the whole passive aggressive thing. I see it no different to any other debate where people hold strong opinions, but in this faceless online community it's a lot easier to try to shut people up by being abusive and insulting so that card gets played a lot. Way too much in fact.

There are some posters on MN who are routinely unnecessarily combative and abusive to every poster they disagree with and I do wonder if it's time they found themselves a hobby

Sorry housework beckoned....

Sweet, obviously. But I also have homemade apple crumble cookies.....

Munches alone

YANBU. But I think people love getting worked up on MN, saves them actually doing ANYTHING about anything in RL. It's called 'venting'.

yes it was one of them, but not in the way you mean (though I do take your point).

My main point, as I said, say I (or anyone, or lots of anyones) say, "yes, this is wrong, nasty, not very nice, etc etc, but I think you're a bit OTT" (like saying the room is soiled and needs redecorating, for instance)...and someone else replies with "I'm stunned that you're completely fine with this and would actually invite people to have sex on top of your baby! "

You see? Its when people actually assign you an opposite viewpoint than the one you've stated, because if you're not climbing the walls with righteous indignation you must disagree with them. Am I clear?

Many of us don't get more than mildly irritated at almost anything.

I'll raise your apple crumble cookies and add some home made ginger cake.

TheRhubarb.

Do you have a radar to detect whenever your name comes up on a thread.

sorry that was to NoOne.

Ginger cake can only be eaten with a hot cup of tea.

Hyperbole drips from their every post.

Nigel, I hope you're a journo or a writer. Otherwise, you are wasted!

TPA. That's what the written word does though, it compels people to write something absolute or shocking, form before content.

Paranoid, the thread you are referring to is a strange one and I think we don't know all the details there, but yes it would seem that a lot of people have strong opinions over whether or not it's ok for two party guests to have a shag in the baby's bedroom.
It's an emotive subject because to some (like me) privacy is a big deal and so is respect. To others, that just shows that you are frigid and have a problem with sex. To others still, the room is forever tainted and will need exorcising and completely re-decorating by the two who tainted it preferably chained and flogged. And then on top of that you had someone waltz in, put words into my mouth and waltz off out again. So an emotive thread. It happens. Get over it.

The one that bugs me is the response that assumes because you aren't against X you're in favour of the supposed opposite but usually in no way connected Y.

As in: 'What, you mean you aren't that fussed by the idea of someone sending their child to bed with no supper as a one-off punishment? Are you in favour of starving children then?'

bad form of me to refer to that one in particular, since that wasn't what this thread was about.