" I don't think a lot of men like independant women"- is this bullshit?

[toptramp]

Just reading an article in the news review about Michelle Mone the entrepeneur behind Ultimo and she blames her divorce on her success and independance. She goes on to say she wishes she was a house wife and that is she was then she would still be married.
hmmm; I think I'd rather be a rich successful divorce than a penniless divorce. Is this giving out the wrong message?

It has struck a chord with me as I am fairly independant and ambitious yet I would love to find a dp. It is possible to find men who love independant and succesful women aren't there? I am not out to diss housewives btw.

The nicest thing about DP is the pride he has taken in the progress of my career in the last 6 years. He really likes the fact that I have been successful, and is happy to take up the slack at home.

He wouldn't admit it in a million years, but I do know that despite how happy he was for me, he was stung when I started earning more than him. However, I think it has less to do with my career taking over his per se, rather that his area of work (construction) took a battering when the recession hit. This did affect us for a while - I think he did feel emasculated. We had a tough 6 months, but have thankfully come through the other side.

However he has never been anything other than supportive and encouraging in my work.

That said I am not a particularly strong minded woman - I act like one, but am a bag of neuroses really.

DP sees my panics and attacks of nerves at home - soothes me when I sit there chewing my fingers saying 'I can't do it, I can't do it', sends me out to work where I am all serene (ish). His encouragement gives me backbone.

do they like women who can spell?

Hmmm both dh and I are independent and successful but neither of us are particularly ambitious or prepared to work ridiculous hours to get to the top. I've usually earned more but it's never been an issue, I guess we're fortunate.

I couldn't be with a man who wanted his fragile ego massaging by me pretending to be thick, or incompetent or letting him make all the decisions. It would be infinitely preferable to be single I would have thought.

"That said I am not a particularly strong minded woman - I act like one, but am a bag of neuroses really."

Oh yes .... I've so heard that line somewhere before.

Bet you kick ass and take no prisoners when you get to work though!

Yes I am like that at work.

I then go home and cry.

Nah ... don't believe you!

Chocolate ganache in the fridge solves all problems.

It is mucho more complex than the question implies!!

eg I like confident, independent women, but I don't like this particualr example, because she doesn't sound very nice as a person. Also, anyone male or female who deliberately sacrifices the people in their lives to 'get on' isn't worth knowing either.

I wouldn't worry too much about what Michelle Mone has to say.

In spite of her financial success, not the most inspiring or articulate of people IMO.