To make excuses not to eat with my friend as her greedyness irritates me?

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My friend (we work together) is constantly going on about her "diet" and how she desperately needs to lose weight and was even trying to get slimming pills off the doctor etc. She's a size 20. We always eat lunch together and I'm sorry but her eating habits just really, really annoy me. She'll buy a huge pot of pasta and literally gobble it down in about a minute, she'll then wolf down a packet of crisps and then pop to the vending machine and buy a chocolate bar and then quite often she'll go to the bakery and buy a massive muffin. Now what she eats is her business and I don't care about her size but to go on and on about dieting and then eat like a pig really, really annoys me.
I just can't stand greed. A few weeks back someone brought in a box of maltesers to demonstrate something (he said for everyone to help themselves but the original purpose was for them to be used as a demonstration for something unconnected to eating). Anyway a few people grabbed one of two - my friend took 3, then she took a large handful - and then polished off the rest of the box laughing like she was being funny. Greed isn't funny! it's annoying!

So anyway I don't really want to eat lunch with her, it makes me uncomfortable and puts me off my own food. Will she twig on to why I'm doing this because I don't want to upset her.

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Please ignore all the oh-so-judgmental people on here judging you while telling you not to be judgmental about your friends habits. SHE doesn't sound much of a friend to you, or others she eats with, to be displaying such unpleasant manners.

Tatty - Didn't see this earlier. This is one study It happens to be the one I had open from yesterday. I can come back with more later but I have to make tea now so don't have time to wade through all the journals.

my god, I'd rather enjoy my grub with a fatty any day of the week

bunny just because one extreme is unpleasant doesn't mean the other extreme is okay, both extreme ends of the spectrum are trying

Interesting about the diet coke thing.

RRR - all 'fatties' are trying are they? Poor you.

at the extreme end yes! just as it can be hard work to be around a severe anorexic

I'm a fattie and I am nothing like the OP's friend. I don't talk about diets, I don't shovel stuff in my gob or over eat when I am with other people. The greed of the woman and the way she refused to share those maltesers makes me cringe - what must her colleagues have thought of her? This isn't about 'fatties,' it is about one woman and her attitude to food and her eating habits. Don't tar us all with the same brush.

I don't like diet coke either. It is very sweet but more than that, it tastes artificial and I have issues with artificial sweetners beyond their link to obesity. Aspartame may be one of the most intensively tested food additives ever but why? Some people clearly aren't convinced of its safety if it continues to be studied.

Other articles for Tatty here and this one which lists several possible reasons for the the link between obesity and diet drinks. Bear in mind that the original article I linked to was a test on rats and as I keep saying it is on-going research but whatever the reason for the link, it seems increasingly likely that it exists.

BBB and co I keep reading your links and I keep finding the same thing...there is no evidence that the diet drinks are causing the weight gain.

Having a hypothesis about how diet drinks may cause weight gain does not actually demonstrate that they do any such thing.

Think of the thousands of plausible sounding hypothesises for how homeopathy might work....none of them make any difference to the fact then when you actually go and see if it works, it turns out it doesnt.

Anyway if someone actual demonstrates this in humans then I will be the first to stand up and throw out the diet coke...but until then I shall continue as I am.

YABU to be so judgemental about "greed". Everyone has their faults and for this person it's food issues. For others it will be something less immediately visible, and less easy to point the finger at - but let's face it no-one is perfect.

I can see she may irritate you.

Personally, I am totally unreasonable, but refure to spend my time with people who can't spell properly. Greedyness?? AArgh. Does my head in - it's Year 3 basic spelling. Why should I spend my time with such uneducated people? Before you moan, I do have a dyslexic ds and wouldn't let him spell like that. Do I sound unreasonable?? Do you sound unreasonable about your "friend" you obviously don't like much? Are we both in the right or in the wrong?

Obviously mean refuse - the whisky I'm drinking is only for my "flu".

entrophygirl - What has homeopathy got to do with it?! It has no relevance to anything.

Of course, continue to drink diet coke if you want to.

I think YABU in the way you talk about her. However, YANBU for wanting to eat alone. That's your business just as it's her business what she eats :)