To hate receiving e mails that don't start with 'hello, hi, dear' or any sort of greeting at all

[Soopermum1]

It started with some alpha males with lack of (or lack of care for) social skills. Now everyone is doing it.

It's only 2 more keystrokes to type 'hi' before my name.

It just seems so rude, abrupt and shouty.

Has anyone else noticed this?

Which alpha males did it start with?

YANBU, I at least expect a greeting.

YANBU, also loathe when folk sign off their emails KR, S (for example) how hard is it to type 'Kind Regards, Shaun'. So the email says 'Sooper, xxxxxx blah blah blah, KR,S' Most annoying.

I get this routinely from colleagues in the US, never from anywhere else in the world though. It looks very rude.

When I say 'alpha males' I suppose I mean some (mostly) men who are ruder and more dismissive face to face or on the phone, so I just put it down to them being twats, but I don't want to think everyone's a twat, but it seems to be infectious.

Yanbu, it's rude. Shows a complete lack of regard for the person addressed.

I don't really care, TBH. But I always use a greeting, apart from repeated emails on a quickfire chain when I will use a greeting on the first one and then not bother because it seems false halfway through a "conversation".

Yanbu

Just seems so rude.

Yanbu it is a bit rude.

I expect the same with a phone call though...MIL and one friend of mine NEVER actually say 'hello', or 'how are you'? When I answer the phone to them, they just go straight off in to whatever they wanted to tell/ask me. Bugs me quite a bit actually!

If it's within a series of emails I'm having with someone I know, I won't say hello or anything because it's more like a conversation.

But if it's the first exchange or you don't email the person often then that would be very rude.

The opposite is posters who 'sign off' their posts on a forum with 'x' or their name I suppose.

(mwah)

What ZigZag said.

hugz 2 the COCK

(It's almost as though you've set up your MN name to deliberately make people type out 'COCK' into their sentences )

Yes, very rude. Makes me instantly not want to co-operate with whatever they are going to say!
Also really really dislike the sign-off "Best". So dismissive!

I have been in correspondence with my local planning dept.
I recieved an email off of an officer who had no previous contact with me.
He starte it
'Hi, Shortened version of first name',

I am afraid I came over all cats bum, Lady Bracknell.

How rude I thought.
How unprofessional.

Not all that bothered if colleagues I email a lot don't use "Hi" or "Hello" at the beginning of an email. However I really dislike it if they just use my name at the start i.e.
Choppy,
Can you send me an update on x please? Blah...

Just seems even more abrupt than just launching in to what they have to say and is usually done by cock-swinging alpha male types. I could tell whether my old boss was in a good mood with me or not depending on whether he used "Hi" in front of my name.

Mrs De Vere, you've been in contact with your planning department? You really must post about it sometime .

Surely time for another update, I love 'em.

Hi Sooper

YANBU. I hate it and I think it's rude. The worst is 'BRegs' as a sign off - why, why, why?

The only exception might be a trail of emails where someone starts, for example, 'Thanks beanandspud lalalalala...'

To me, this is type of greeting is acceptable from a work colleague who you communicate with by email often. So if this is what you are thinking of, YABU.

From a friend, it seems a bit rude, so YANBU.

(Reminded of email I sent to colleague on returning to work after mat leave, signed 'love Mos xx' )

Crap grammar, sorry pedants.

MsV dont worry MN will be the first to know when I have any news

Depends on the situation to be honest. I don't tend to lose much sleep over it. It's not a letter, but a message system that has - perhaps sadly - become abbreviated. Like texting....I don't start every text with Dear/Hi or whatever.

Interesting. In my correspondence with STB exH, I purposely don't bother with any 'Hi Dick,' or sign it off with my name as that would be just too friendly. (And I don't feel friendly.) That's OK, though, isn't it?

I have an OCD thing going on where I have to put 'xxx' after a text I'm sending Mos, it causes me no end of grief fighting it at inappropriate times

Fuck yes Ellen!

That's when it speaks volumes about what you think about the person!

Hope you're OK (with the STBexH situation)

Special dispensation for STB ex Dickheads, thank you!

YABU and very old fashioned. Whenever I receive an email from someone who starts off with "Dear Sayit" I think the sender is automated, or a person with too much time on their hands, or someone who is not really used to communication by email. It just seems a little over the top. I mean, I already know my own name - just get to the point already!