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AIBU?

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Original poster

I probably am BU...but want to know for sure.

76 replies

ChasTittyBeltUp · 04/02/2012 14:10

I am at home trying to work with 2 DDs who are bored. Because I work from home and am the main breadwinnner, it is vital that I finish my work today.

DH is also working but in a town 100 miles away and will be back at around 7.30pm.

I have no shopping in the house....running out of milk which DD2 drinks a lot...we have nothing in for dinner later.

I can't drive due to health reasons and the nearest shop is a miles walk down a long and windswept lane.

I asked my Mum if she could pop by (she lives 5 miles away) and bring some milk...she drives.

She said no.

DH was meant to get the shopping yesterday but broke his hip just before christmas and had a bad day yesterday....I had been told by my Mum that she would be visiting today...then this morning she said "Oh no...I just want to stay at home."

Fair enough but she KNOWS I am stuck here, trying to work with no shopping in the house and I am now going to have to take two kids into the heavy sleet to get something for tea.

I feel totally pissed off and alone. The walk is not bothering me so much as the DDs getting soaked and the fact that I will lose so much working time. AIBU to be pssed off with my Mum who is fit with a car and eff all to do all day??

OP posts:
Kayano · 04/02/2012 14:29

disclaimer... The following post is not serious and is intended to annoy someone on the forum Wink

Are you young OP?

Wink
WorraLiberty · 04/02/2012 14:30

Kayano Grin

squeakytoy · 04/02/2012 14:31

And yes, what others have said is true... if the shop is only a mile away, you can all walk it there and back in an hour. Kids will have had fresh air and exercise.. you can feed them and get on with your work. Everyones a winner!

Original poster
ChasTittyBeltUp · 04/02/2012 14:32

NO Kayano I am the wrong side of 35!

My Mum is not old either! She had me at 17.

OP posts:
TotemPole · 04/02/2012 14:32

I COULD make them plain pasta with cheese

Do that for them and get your DH to bring something back for the two of you.

How old are the DC?

Original poster
ChasTittyBeltUp · 04/02/2012 14:33

Blah bah buggery bah.

Ok. I am going to swaddle kids in raincoats and slap a hat on...won't bother with makeup...

My face looks like a smacked arse already today.

OP posts:
Original poster
ChasTittyBeltUp · 04/02/2012 14:34

The Dc are twenty and 12 Totem

Not really. Just winding you up.

THey are 3 and 7.

OP posts:
Earlybird · 04/02/2012 14:38

Too late now but......if dh was too unwell to shop, you should have done it last night - even if only to pick up a few essentials so you wouldn't be stuck today.

For today: make pasta and cheese, or order pizza/takeaway for delivery tonight. Stick a film or telly on to occupy dc so you can work

For future: Always keep a few 'emergency' supplies in the pantry and/or freezer, and, learn to drive. it is an essential skill.

TotemPole · 04/02/2012 14:40

Chas, that made me chuckle.Grin

Do you have tins of soup or beans and bread in?

squeakytoy · 04/02/2012 14:41

learn to drive. it is an essential skill

hey.. be fair.. OP says she cant drive due to health reasons.. not because she cant be bothered...

WorraLiberty · 04/02/2012 14:42

Earlybird The OP can't drive for health reasons.

Earlybird · 04/02/2012 14:42

oh sorry, didn't see that it was due to health reasons. My apologies.

jubilee10 · 04/02/2012 14:51

YADNBU. My dsd lives 5 miles away and whilst I would not bail her out on a regular basis in a situation like yours I would go and get her shopping and take the kids for a couple of hours. Ask your dh to get milk on the way home and get a takeaway or tea.

AnnieLobeseder · 04/02/2012 15:18

Hmm at all the self-righteous posters who've never had a lapse in planning and seem to think that getting unexpected work to earn the family money is borderline child neglect.

OP, I'd vote for takeaway and/or a taxi. It's annoying that your mum has let you down, but sadly, there's no-one we can really rely on in this world.

Lueji · 04/02/2012 15:19

How do you let it happen, though?

I alway make sure there is something that can be eaten at home.

Worst case scenario, eggs, rice, pasta, tuna.

Or order takeaway.

Or get supermarket delivery.

Kayano · 04/02/2012 15:20

Where are all those posters Annie? Have you made them up? Confused

NorthernWreck · 04/02/2012 15:22

YABU sorry. And I say this as someone who regularly runs out of basics Blush.
She's five miles away!
Forget about milk and order a chinese for tea.

sharenicely · 04/02/2012 15:28

I don't understand why you can have absolutely nothing in? Tins of beans, soup, tuna,cheese you can't have run out of everything can you?
I don't have a dh or dm who could help me out therefore I just don't run out of everything and always have a well stocked freezer.
If it was snowing and I couldn't be arsed going to the shops I would manage.
Oh and if you can't be arsed going to the shops, why do you expect your mother to?
so in conclusion yabVu

nickelhasababy · 04/02/2012 15:29

Get a takeaway or go to the shop (i think you've succumbed to that idea! Grin)

as for the supermarkets delivering to her area- i used to live in the countryside and they wouldn't deliver to me, despite delivering to the village 1/2 mile away.

and 5 miles away to me then was to the nearest shop, so i don't think the op's mum has got that far to go.

CumberdickBendybatch · 04/02/2012 15:32

Ring a cab company and ask them to go to the shop for you, and offer a nice big tip on top of the charge.

or order a pizza and beg them to bring a pint of milk with them

ragged · 04/02/2012 15:33

Do Tesco's do same day delivery?
Get some UHT milk in the future.

Newmummytobe79 · 04/02/2012 15:37

Cumberdick is a genius! And has a very funny username Grin

Do that - problem solved!

AnnieLobeseder · 04/02/2012 15:39

Kayano - didn't make them up at all. And I quote:

"OP, if you're had too much work to do and have not been able to buy your children basic groceries, perhaps your Mum thinks you need to re-order your priorities?"

"But really, why is there so little food in the place that you cant make up an emergency meal. If you live so far from a shop then it makes sense to have basics in."

"if dh was too unwell to shop, you should have done it last night - even if only to pick up a few essentials so you wouldn't be stuck today. For future: Always keep a few 'emergency' supplies in the pantry and/or freezer"

"How do you let it happen, though? I alway make sure there is something that can be eaten at home. "

"I don't understand why you can have absolutely nothing in?"

All rather patronising and unhelpful! But to be fair, it's only the first one who was suggesting the child neglect.

sharenicely · 04/02/2012 15:42

It's not patronising, It's basically disbelief.
her cupboards and freezer cannot be completely bare I just don't believe it. Yes I believe she's low on milk but will survive till her Dh comes home, rather than put her mother out so much.

Kayano · 04/02/2012 15:45

How is it unhelpful? Offering advice to avoid such situations
In future because as you said yourself, you can't rely on others to drop in shopping.

You have to preempt situations like this. ESP with bad weather coming up etc...

Nothing self righteous about it IMO and I saw NO ONE mention child neglect
Ffs

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