quickly! to pop to shop when baby sleeping?

[Scheherezade]

Shop is approx 200-300 yards from my house. I have to cross a road and that's it.

Baby is 4m, asleep in cot, not under a blanket so no suffocation risk....

Shop know I have a baby, am scared they'll judge me as bad mum!

I find it strange that some people are saying that being present in the house while your baby is asleep is a) an unrealistic amount of faff and b) paramount to some kind of cotton wool parenting.

You don't seem to understand what I'm saying secret, but it's not really important anyway. I don't think anyone has said being in the house when the baby is sleeping is a faff, or cotton wool parenting. All they've said is that there are risks every day, you can't watch your baby every second of their life and not being right next to them for five minutes is, realistically, a very tiny risk.

It all depends on wherther you are going for cider or huggies, if previous threads are any guide....fwiw I'd go.

I don't think you understand me either but hey ho.
It is a small risk but also entirely unnecessary. No-one has said that you can watch your baby for every second. Some have just said you don't need to leave them at home to go to the shop. It doesn't have to be a choice of hovering over and staring at them or leaving the house altogether. Remaining in earshot of the smoke alarm is enough for me.

god why not just put the baby in the pram blanket and raincover? its not so bad to slightly rouse a baby to pop them in a pram is it?

no its not , but its quicker to just run to the shop get your milk or whatever and run home

and just pray that a meteor doesn't land on your house in the mean time

I would. And I risk assess for a living. I have 2 children, one of whom has managed to survive until 14 with me regularly doing a sprint to the offie shop when I was a single mother. whatme what difference does it make what she is buying?
I grew up on a farm and m parents regularly had outside work to do while I slept.

@ meteor usual

reread whatme apologies

lol i know but what if somebody sees you and reports you to social services? (i live in fear of them lol)

IF something did happen in that time, how guilty would you feel? Best not to take the risk for the sake of 'needing chocolate' or wine. Go without.

Most people's kids will survive if they do this. Most peoples kids will survive if they never strap them in the car. Most peoples kids will survive if their house doesn't have smoke detectors. Most peoples kids would survive if they left them at home all night.

Secretmince- its a village shop, no queues.

This comes up time and again on mn and people have very wide opinions on it,however i cant see why its actually worth the risk tbh,ive had 5 and been a single parent and never felt the need to leave them alone untill they were older. Imagine how hard it would be to carry on living if there was a fire and you couldnt get the baby out. Just not worth it imo.

Ok, given we're re-treading Old Mumsnet Chestnuts - what's the MN collective wisdom on leaving your sleeping baby in the car while you park in front of the village Coop and pop in for some milk? Or at the petrol station? (Are there really people who remove a car seat with baby every time they pay for petrol?)

I do both of these, btw.

Oh, and no, I wouldn't pop to the shops as the OP has described. Not because I fear an unexpected house fire or RTA (DH is also a statistician and always chuntering on about risk), but because it would quickly become the thin edge of the wedge. You'd 'get away with it' the first time, it would become something you'd do on a more regular basis because nothing bad had happened - and then possibly you'd widen the time you spent away. Your baby sleeps for 50 minutes, always, so why not do the post office too, while you're out? And so on.

Before you know it, you're stopping out for half a bottle of white with a mate. Slippery slope.

whatme what difference does it make what she is buying?

Absolutely none risk wise, but on previous threads a DH was lambasted for going for booze whereas a DW was Ok going for baby stuff

Or maybe that was because it was a Man :)

Reshape, I wouldn't be able to do anything else, It's a very small village!

Well, I would do it.

More risk in carrying a baby across the road than leaving them in their cot for 5 minutes.

Seriously? people actually do this? facepalm

I just don't get this 'fear' of Social Services on Mumsnet - I know a situation where a young child is regularly left alone/uncared for etc etc - the situation is known to SS who are seemingly content to ignore it, no help is offered, no question of the child being taken into care (where quite honestly a loving foster family would make a huge difference to this child's life).

Anyway, to answer original question, yes, I would (and did ) leave my baby for a few minutes to run to a shop/get petrol/post a letter/chat to a neighbour outside the house .

Well I would just go to the shop - but I wouldn't tell anyone on here that's for sure.

"Right! The baby is still alive and you've got your pint of milk. Put that in the fridge - done. That's safe. But are you gonna gamble?!! Bargain Booze is only twice as far again. You could be back here in ten minutes with a cold four pack... She's gonna gamble!!!"

It's a quick visit to the corner shop, not The Cube.

at Ragwort and FightswithMonsters!

For all those who remove your baby from car to pay for petrol, at least when your kids come to you in their 30's saying: "I'm scared of everything and my therapist says it's because you always over protected me", you can reply, "But How can you say that? I never left you in the car alone like other bad parents."