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AIBU?

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Original poster

to not pay this?

51 replies

giveyourselfashiny · 31/01/2012 10:46

just wanted to ask about this situation.
I was on my way to an evening group last night, walking, when one of the other ladies from the group stopped and gave me a lift the rest of the way. We got to the carpark and i asked her if she needed change for the parking she said no that she had a carpark ticket. All fine so in we go. At the end she said, come on ill give you a lift to the end of your road, save you the walk, i asked if she was sure, she said yes.
Ae got to her car to find she had a parking ticket.
Turned out even after we had talked about it, she had forgotten to put her ticket in the car window.
She went back in and asked if they would accept it was a mistake and waive the fee but apparently they dont.
So she was fuming and said her hubby would be fuming and that she thought i should pay half so he wouldnt notice her paying the full wack.
I said no.
In my view, i didnt ask for the lift, i mentioned paying towards the parking, and she said she had it covered.
wibu?

OP posts:

Gribble · 31/01/2012 14:47

Err no, dont pay her a penny.

Some people really have no shame when it comes to being grabby.

mojitomania · 31/01/2012 14:54

You are not entitled to pay anything towards the ticket but maybe a jesture to help her out if you like her (I'd have gone off her though due to her being so cheeky in the first place)

ENormaSnob · 31/01/2012 15:30

I wouldn't pay.

mayorquimby · 31/01/2012 16:18

it'd be pretty sweet if you'd pay my sky bill this month.

Pendeen · 31/01/2012 16:21

".. and said her hubby would be fuming .."

Crux of the matter?

Snowbeetle · 31/01/2012 16:21

She is definitely out of order. The brass neck of some people. in what way are you responsible for her fine exactly?!!

PosieParker · 31/01/2012 16:26

I would just ask her if everything's okay at home as it's pretty unusual to ask someone to contribute to a fine risking complete embarrassment.

LadyClariceCannockMonty · 31/01/2012 16:29

Give her a few suggestions as to where she can stick the ticket.

But I am a bit concerned that she seems so scared of her husband finding out about the fine.

CelticPromise · 31/01/2012 16:35

You should not pay. I wouldn't ask you if it was me. I would advise her to do as Ghoul suggested. I have appealed one like this and won.

Original poster

giveyourselfashiny · 31/01/2012 17:06

she didnt seem scared, just that she knew he was going to be pissed off at having to pay a fine when there was no good reason for it.

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Shutupanddrive · 31/01/2012 18:18

No way should you pay anything!
How much was the fine, out of interest?

ljgibbs · 31/01/2012 18:37

Just tell her to piss off.

CamperFan · 31/01/2012 18:38

soupdragon, I just think "nice" is an odd way of describing going halves on people's random mistakes/responsibilities. Personally I would find it very odd and would not dream of someone paying me half of parking ticket I had acquired. Why not offer to go halves on her next tank of petrol too - that would be "nice", right?!

SiamoNellaMerda · 31/01/2012 18:44

The posters saying she should pay, or that it would be nice to pay - what planet exactly are you from and is it nice there? You're so full of shit - like you would pay half of someone else's parking ticket - of course you bloody wouldn't.

FlightRisk · 31/01/2012 19:24

Yeah if you want to pay half my electric bill this month. Well it is part your fault that I'm on here commenting on your post

JustAnother · 31/01/2012 19:35

I would definitely not pay. She's the driver and therefore responsible for everything to do with her car. If she run someone over on the way, would she expect you to take 1/2 the blame?

SoupDragon · 31/01/2012 20:50

SiamoNellaMerda, actually I have so you can shove your hysterical laughter and insults up your arse where they belong.

And yes, it would be nice if the OP paid. I'm not saying she should, she doesn't have to, no one will force her and, personally, I wouldn't have asked but it would be a nice thing to do.

SoupDragon · 31/01/2012 20:51

In fact the parking fine I paid was in respect of a car being towed away. The driver couldn't afford it, I could.

SoupDragon · 31/01/2012 20:53

I'll leave you to your indignant proclamations though.

Breitling · 31/01/2012 20:57

She needs to write and appeal. going in and asking is not going to get her anywhere. Anyway what sort of carpark are we talking? Public carpark? So who exactly did she go back in and ask?
And how much is the fine.

Vinomum · 31/01/2012 21:09

Well I've just spent 2 minutes reading this thread. Can you kindly contribute towards my Broadband bill now OP?

Honestly - tell her (nicely) to get knotted.

LydiaWickham · 31/01/2012 21:31

Advise her to appeal the fine if she had a valid ticket. But you shouldn't pay.

NoOnesGoingToEatYourEyes · 31/01/2012 21:48

So she has a permit that allows her to park in the car park without buying a ticket.

But even though you offered to pay for a parking ticket and she told you she didn't need one as she has a permit, she forgot to display it.

Now she has a fine to pay and she wants you to pay half of it because you were in the car with her when she forgot to display the permit.

She's responsible for her own fine. She has a permit so there were no ticket costs for you to chip in with and it's not your fault she forgot to put the permit on display.

I bet this isn't the first time she's forgotten it, that's why she doesn't want to tell her husband. Anyone can make a mistake but a repeated one can be really annoying, especially if it costs a lot of money.

Don't pay anything OP. But don't expect her to offer you a lift again either (and if she does, don't take it! )

Bingdweller · 31/01/2012 21:53

I' be telling her to piss off no, politely. She is the driver, her responsibility to ensure ticket was used. You even reminded her about parking fees when offering to give change!

ComposHat · 01/02/2012 01:39

".. and said her hubby would be fuming .."Crux of the matter?

I'd fume in the same circumstances.

If it was a case of her husband harrumphing, sighing, having a mild sulk, proclaiming 'what were you thinking?' then it is probably warranted and an understandable response to having to find £60 out of the family budget for an idiotic mistake that could have been easily avoided.

She is being unreasonable to expect flowers and champagne from her husband off the back of this, just as she is being unreasonable to expect you to stump up.

However if by 'fuming' that means an excuse to belittle/ knock seven bells out of her then that is clearly something to worry about.

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