On a scale ranging from diplomatic to a firm MYOB to outright bitchy bluntness, how do you respond to unwanted parenting advice? I haven't even given birth yet and it's incessant. If it's a well meant one off, then maybe just nod and smile but what if it's frequent interfering, and sometimes quite frankly ridiculous.
Just a few examples;
"Do midwives still do house inspections?" looking around my clean and tidy living room like this 
"Leave the baby to nap in the garden, just pop in a hot water bottle in winter, if she fusses then you won't have to listen"
"Breast milk isn't enough for newborns they'll get thirsty"
"If you don't wean before 6 months they'll be malnourished"
"Holding a baby too much, slings, feeding on demand and having them sleep in your room at first spoils a baby, it's keeping them too close"
I know that often it's a matter of opinion, and people just want to help. I'll happily listen to family and friends, books, heath care professionals and of course MN. I don't want to be told what to do, I'm already starting to feel judged and insulted. I want to workout what is best for me and DD taking bits from here and there, nothing is set in stone for me, but I want my choices respected.
I always seem to think of good things to say when it's to late. I need some stock go to responses for various people. And for one repeat offender, naming no names , maybe something I can say that will stop her for once an for all without insulting her and destroying any relationship between me, her and DP. DP will not say anything to her, he hates confrontation. Do I just have to bite my tonge, nod and smile? I can only see things getting worse from here.
Disclaimer: This was not intended to be a MIL bashing thread. As much as she gets on my tits, I don't have a bad relationship with her she is not exactly a toxic MIL. I do need to know how to deal with this in general not just with her.