I was there for her, day after day for years... countless hours on the phone, did every single birthday for her, took weeks at a time off work to care for her, lent her money she never repaid. Now for the first time ever I ask her a favour, to come and help out for just a few days after I've had major surgery and won't be able to use half my body 'ooooooh can I think about it, that's such a huuuuuuuge thing you've asked'. But she still wants to come and visit 'just for a break'
Please tell me to stop fuming and accept that reciprocity is never a symmetrical thing, and that some friendships are simply one-sided like that. Tell me that I've got better things to stress about than such an utterly self-absorbed individual... please...