AIBU... to choose crushing disappointment over crippling guilt

[kickinnapants]

My work has organised a three day training conference in a couple of months, which sounds like it'll be really good, I am on a very short list of invitees and I so want to go.

But DH will be away just then, on a work trip abroad, so I would have to ask our part-time nanny if she'd do a 3 overnights with our DS who will be 11 months then. Which would be expensive but manageable. But the conference will be far away (5 hours by road) which to me seems too far, so I feel I have no choice but to decline the invitation. Cue crushing disappointment.

Am I being too PFB about this? Perhaps 3 nights far away but still in the same country is just not that big a deal... What would you do?

Why are those who would go trying to belittle those who wouldn't? Defensive, much????

Mrs Schadenfreude, I have a career, thanks. Having a career and putting your children first are not mutually exclusive, you know.

Kayano, no PFB here, I'm on my third child and wouldn't go.

And Heswall, if i were in your position I'd get my union involved. What do they suggest you do with your children if there's no one to look after them? Not everyone has a nanny available to do overnights.

To the OP- I'm not saying you shouldn't go if you want to- but if it will cause you 'crippling guilt' then what's the point?