To ask if you think that I am odd?

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I was on a night out last night in a group of 7 women.
The chat as it does got around to sex. We are all around 28/29 and while I am not the only one in a relationship, I am the only one who is married and the only one expecting a DC.

Me and DH have been together for 9 years now, we got together when I
was 19.
I have never had sex with anyone but DH.

Out of these other women 3 are in relationships and 3 are single.
So talking about sex and things.

They all were shocked (except one who I know from university) that I have only ever been with one person.
I was informed that it is odd and bizarre.
One of the woman informed me that 'i must not be very good at it' and that my DH must 'get bored and have to do all the work'
Another woman then told me that I must be a prude.

I came home really thrown and feel a bit odd about it all (last night)
Were these woman just being ridicules or is that actually what people think ?

You're not odd - I met DP when I was 19 and I'm 24 now, I wouldn't give up my loving, stable relationship with a man that adores me just so I can have sex wih a few more People and I don't think DP would either. As it happens, we both had one other sexual partner before we met each other, but I wish that I had been a virgin when I met him. I wouldn't say I was particularly adventurous, but we have learnt together and there are things that we do together that I know I wouldn't be comfortable with doing with someone I had just met.

Ignore them.

No you're not odd, you're you

For some reason this has really reminded me of the working/sah mum debate, it's almost like a lot of women aren't really comfortable with the idea that there really is a choice, the more traditional options still been valid ones that don't need to be devalued and sneered at to make theirs 'the right one'.

Thinking about it, you could just as well say they must not be much good at sex, if they can't keep a partner for long, or find one who wants to marry them.

Not that I would say that, because it would be rude and ignorant, and is obviously flawed reasoning. But no worse than what they said!

Agree that it's a bit like the WOHM/SAHM thing - some women can't seem to accept that others make different choices and live different lives, there's not one 'correct' lifestyle that would work for all of us.

They were unkind in what they said, but I do agree actually it's a bit unusual. Although clearly I am the odd one out on this thread. (I've had sex with about, ooh, 28 people.)

You are NOT odd AT ALL! Their reaction was a bit sad and jealous. Another example of others being very afraid of something that is different. They're coming from their 'child part' inside of themselves. How rude of them. I'd tell them how their attitude made you feel and when rthey try to make you out as having a S.O.H bypass, tell them no, it didn't feel very nice and it's not on! Do it! Find others who are better at feeling OK about themselves. I hate this kind of petty judgy behaviour.

Certainly not odd! DP is the 2nd (hopefully the last) person I've ever slept with, it's something I'm a bit proud of tbh.
They sound very bitchy

No, I do agree with you mother that it is unusual in my experience - the majority of my friends have not settled down with their first partner.

But just as I wouldn't consider myself to be a slapper simply because I've had a number of sexual partners (thankyou stripy for that view) it makes perfect sense to me that if you are happy with your first partner, you would stay with them and enjoy a great sex life!

My BIL and his wife have been together for many years since their teens and I can't imagine a more blissfully happy couple. And my DH and I met plenty of people over the years before getting together and we are also happy, feeling we have surveyed a good spectrum of partners and have found what works for us.

So you are definitely not odd OP. I can't understand why anyone needs to judge your relationship at all.

You are not odd!!! I am in my 40s and have only ever slept with two men my ex husband and my dh.

Things never to discuss in a group;
Sex, income, holiday spend, children's exam results.
They don't sound like nice friends tbh

They sound horrid. Are they actual friends or more acquaintances/colleagues or something? I wouldn't think of anyone who called me a prude or said I was no good at sex a friend. Leave the bastards.

That is rude!

I have only been with DH, because I happened to meet him when I was 18. You'd be an idiot to break up with someone because you needed to have sex with more people before you settled down!

And I am very good at it!

Idiots

they're being wierd.

what they think is nothing to do with how you are. forget about it.

They were mean and superior.

You are lucky that you got the right one first time. You should be quietly pleased with yourself :)

Not odd at all! It is somewhat unusual, simply because most people aren't that lucky.

DH and I have been together since we were seventeen (now twenty-nine) and have only slept with each other. Seeing as that's over eleven years of practice and learning exactly what turns each other on, the comment of "must not be good at it" is bizarre. I can tell you now that we are fucking brilliant at it. Maybe I wouldn't be so hot with another man, but I couldn't give a crap about what anyone else thinks, because DH and I both think we have a hell of a good sex life. Just think, if you've been in a relationship all that time you've probably had a damn sight more sex than these other women anyway.

They're probably just jealous. Go and shag your husband and forget about them!

Unusual, possibly, but not odd. I think your friends were quite rude.

My h has only ever slept with me. I seem to still manage to enjoy myself. :o

Not odd at all! You just happen to have lost your virginity to a man that you have stayed with, who I imagine you love and makes you happy.

Your friends are very rude and unkind!

You aren't odd at all. I think perhaps your "friends" need to reflect on perhaps why they aren't in long term loving relationships .

DH and I got together late 20s. If we had met each other 10 years earlier we might only have slept with each other too.

They are jealous. They are judgemental and would be highly offended if you made assumptions about their sex lives.

I had a friend a bit like this, she once bragged about the number of men she'd slept with and seemed smug when myself and my friend contributed. I told her it was the quality not the quantity and that shut her up.

Silly immature women.

I think they're jealous.
A lot of us have to kiss a few frogs before we find a good one - which, I guess, is what they've been doing.

It's unusual, not odd. I have a couple of friends who've only slept with their DH due to starting dating young and not cheating.

Let me put it this way, while I had a few partners before DH, he is the one I've learned the most about what works for me from. If I'd only slept with him, I'd have only had good sex with a kind man. If you were luck enough to meet your DH a couple of years before I met mine, and you missed that crap sex stage with tossers, then I should be jealous of you, not pitying.

YANBU at all. How rude and unnecessary! I hope these people are not your "friends" and you won't have to see them again soon.

Oh, I'm sure they're not jealous. I'm not remotely jealous of anyone who has only had sex with one bloke. But they are being rude.