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to want my husband to dance with me

57 replies

joshandjamie · 29/01/2012 08:38

I know I am being unreasonable. But I can't help it. I love dancing. I don't get to do it often but when the opportunity arises, there's nothing I love more than hitting the dance floor. And I would love to be able to do that with my husband. But he can't stand it. At. All.

It's not that he can't dance, he is a very good dancer. And in fact, he really enjoys scottish country dancing on the rare occasions we get to do that. And he did dance with me for the first dance at our wedding, which was amazing - we spent weeks practising in our flat - those weeks of practising are some of my sweetest memories. On extremely rare occasions when he has been VERY drunk, he has finally felt uninhibited enough to dance - and I love those moments. I get to swirl around the dance floor with my handsome husband.

But your regular boogie - he just won't do it. And it breaks my heart.

Last night we ended up having a falling out as we had the chance to dance and I asked him to and he refused. And then he said he was sick of being made to feel guilty about not wanting to dance when he hates doing it. I really don't mean to make him feel guilty about it but I just so wish he would.

Sigh

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testrun79 · 12/03/2018 17:21

It's not unreasonable to want your partner to dance. Dance is an essential part of life. There are men who dance and men who do not dance. Men who do not dance won't change, and you can't make them change. If you want your partner to dance with you, find a man who isn't afraid to dance. That, or resign yourself to the sad reality that you will never have this part of your life fulfilled.

TenancyTroublesAgain · 12/03/2018 18:55

As someone who HATES dancing, even when drunk... Leave him alone! Grin

testrun79 · 12/03/2018 20:02

Yes, leave him. Alone.

londonrach · 12/03/2018 20:05

Dh refuses to dance then so does my dad (and mum). Id never force them. Their choice. Their loss. Just dance if you want but dont force anyone.

Sparklesocks · 12/03/2018 20:12

Arghhh zombie 🧟‍♀️

Eliza9917 · 12/03/2018 20:23

Could you compromise and see if he will dance with you at home? We sometimes dance indoors after a couple of drinks

ArchchancellorsHat · 12/03/2018 20:40

How on earth did you even find a six year old thread?

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