AIBU to feel a bit uncomfortable with this event?

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There's a ladies night event on next Saturday that a few friends and I have been invited to. The dress code is 'emergency services' and so other ladies have bought outfits from Ann Summers (naughty nurse outfits etc) with all hotpants and boobs out...

I don't know, it just doesn't sit right. I know I should go along to fit in because everyone else is. But I don't want to dress in a way that I feel cheapens me. I almost feel like its a bit degrading actually. But then, am I just being to sensitive? I am a bit that way this week

I would tell them that it wasnt my thing, and I didnt really fancy going and leave it at that.

Well it depends where the venue is. If it is someone's private home, then nobody will see you apart from other invitees who are also dressed weirdly.

It it is a local pub or you are off out on the town, then YANBU and the outfits have been chosen merely to draw attention.

agentzigzag I work and a wide base of my girlfriends are SAHM's, so weekends are my only time to catch up with them. I do find myself getting left out of stuff because I work sometimes, so maybe that's part of it?

I could post you DP's Paramedics boiler suit but I fear it would be to big for you.
I went to a Hen night where we had to dress in this Now I am 5ft 1 size 6-8 it was not a good look on me but way worse on others and yes it was mutton dressed as lamb I wore a black ruffles lace sleeveless blouse and thick black tights with high heels to save my modesty and an argument could you adapt the out fit some how to suit yourself?

I'd go dressed in something non-sexy.

The idea of compulsory sexy-dressing is so grim and unsexy.

I hate fancy dress...and I hate Anne Summers bollocks as well...but that's just me - I don't care if anyone else wants to streak around in a horrible polyester outfit and shriek at dildos.

sidge role play is a good sex life livener ...... you might like winciette nighties and lights out .... but some of us like a bit of fun

disclaimer Ebay is far better for that sort of thing than Ann Summers (too high street and mainsteam)

Well I'll do the bitching and judging for you, OP, if you don't want to

I hate this shit. Naughty nurses is bad enough. Nothing tops the naughty schoolgirl theme that numerous acquainatnces have had for their hen nights though.

Urgh.

Urgh.

Urgh.

It IS man pleasing, tits out, please give me attention and tell me I'm sexy bullshit.

I wouldn't touch it with a barge pole.

YANBU.

Ann Summers is nasty polyester crap < yuk >

Why don't you go in a real nurses uniform? They usually have a nice 'A line' skirt and possibly some vomit or even a bit of faecal matter dabbed on here and there. Well that's what my uniform used to look like!

Get some waterproofs and a sou'wester and go as lifeboat crew.

Sounds grim. 'Ladies night event' conjures up images of sweaty, depressed looking male strippers in thongs, and sweaty, depressed women in PVC, all pretending that it's all SUCH A LAUGH.
I'd stay at home with a bottle of wine and telly if I was in your shoes.

can you go as a lifeboat man... big wellies, waterproof yellow coat and a sou'wester?

x post with grimma

squeakytoy, you quoted the OP as saying 'I feel' and me. Those words do not imply judgement of those who choose to go out dressed 'sexily' (though I accept that my inverted commas here do, but I'm not asking the question).

If you're going to call the OP on her views, you need to base your theories on what she actually says, not what you think she's saying.

troisgarcons don't be so daft. I never said I insisted on winceyette nighties and lights off.

I just think Ann Summers clothes are overpriced, poorly made and nasty. If I'm going to dress up I'd rather not do it in scratchy polyester and plastic...

sidg - I grovel - I thought you were deriding my post

I'm a bit confused as to why you don't want to go - is it because you don't fancy the actual event? Is it because you don't want to dress in the same way your friends are? or is it because if you were to go dressed more conservatively you think you'd feel akward around your friends?

When I had a better figure I would have probably done what they are doing - it's fun (it is actually OK to dress in a way that makes you feel sexy - and no AF I'm not a man pleasing Air Head LOL), but when you no longer have the figure it's not fun - so I'd go in something more conservative - but I'd still have a good time and I wouldn't care what the others were wearing... be that skimpy nurses outfits or paramedics overalls - because I'd be going to the event, with friends.

I don't understand. If it's a ladies night, why the need to dress skimpily? Have I misunderstood? To me a ladies night is about ladies all being together. Why would you want to dress all skimpy/sexy?

No, I would feel odd about this. It's not enough to be a nurse, you have to be a SEXY NURSE. Or a SEXY PARAMEDIC. Or whatnot. I would be urgh about this too, it's the fetishization of everyfuckingthingwotwalks.

I suggest you encase yourself in a massive cardboard tube and go as a fireman's pole. And then tell your friends to grow the fuck up.

woolly, because they are empowerfulising each other of course

doesn't make sense, does it ?

I love everything that anyfucker said

Nothing more sad than a bunch of grown ladies wearing that kind of gear on a night out thinking they are hot

Bleurghh

Could you opt for a "normal" nurses (or whatever) costume from a fancy dress shop......still fitting in with the theme, but retaining your dignity at the same time.