Sorry for the bad spelling, grammer and how long this my turn out to be.
Had Dd 2 a three weeks ago and had to stay in hospital for most of the past two weeks as my c-section went a bit wrong. My mum has been helping take care of two Dcs while I was in. Dh dropped Ds off at mums at 1 and she picked up Dd from school while Dh came to the hospital and helped out and took care of Dd2 and me. He'd then go and pick up the Dcs at 4:30 ish.
We both came home a week ago and we have thanked my mum for her help and Dh got her some flowers to say thanks. She called the next day, not to ask how anyone was but to tell us how much of an incovenience it was that she looked after Dcs for so long and she's missed so much social time because of it. I said I was very sorry and she hung up.
The next day she rang again with the same results. The day after her and my dad came round they sat in the living room. I am still in silly amounts of pain when I move so I am kindof stuck there on the sofa as Dh runs around. (Something I feel awful about but it can't be helped and Dh wouldn't let me anyway)
They sat for ages and just gave yes or no answers. Ds tried to play with them but they wouldn't even look at him so he got really upset. I got annoyed and asked them to at least talk to thier only grandson. My dad got up and played with Ds and my mum gave him 'the look'. Dh gave my mum some tea and set out biscuits because she wouldn't talk at all. She didn't move she just sat there.
Dh took Ds next door for a play date. As soon as he was gone my mum went on a massive rant at me which got really personal and insulting. My dad just sat, and said nothing. Dh came back to find my mum yelling the place down about how horrid and un-feeling I was and a lazy mother and so forth. Dh said they should leave and after 4 attempts they left, and Dh was stuck with me while I cried all over him.
Dh doesn't think we should let them into our home again until my mum says sorry. My sil came round this morning and when we told her what happened she told us how horrid we were not letting her in again. Dh is still holding strong, but I am really not sure what to do.
Perspective would be nice please. :)