Children/ weddings

[RabidEchidna]

When I gave birth to my children I banned any brides and grooms from being at the births, Was I being unreasonable?

DISCLAIMER I am waiting for dinner to cook and am bored

As long as you sent them the placenta for the buffet, YANBU.

did you not find that some brides and grooms just came along anyway? even though they weren't invited?

I think you have spotted the answer to overpopulation!! Make brides and grooms attend births and it will put them off having children I hope.

bloody liberty some brides and grooms take, maybe you should have limited the invites to only blood relations?

Well I just could not face brides and grooms running amok while I was pushing and panting.

Some brides and grooms really enjoy births, I think it's very unfair and a bit unsettling that you wouldn't want them there.

Well I gave them 9 months notice so they had time to find something else to do

So unfair that they don't get to dress up in hospital gear either!

gawd yeah. all that moaning about having to stand about in uncomfortable shoes, flowers wilting and saying 'i do' when the midwife is telling you to push

Leave the bastard

Oopps! Wrong thread!

Tsk. You are such a birthzilla.

Well MIL was not happy, seems she had brought a hat!

Births are a FAMILY event and it is wrong to exclude brides and grooms. Especially if they are breast fed. Bitty.

YABU.
I invited all these lovely people to my birth.
It was such an intimate experience.

YANBU - they inevitably ruin the soundtrack on the video that Uncle Gavin is making of the whole thing. All that coochee-cooing is a real distraction from the screams of 'getting that fecking baby out of me right now'.

YA obviously BCU - as Mrs TP says, births are a family event - you may have caused irreparable damage to the family by your refusal to allow brides and grooms to be present at you birth - I'm sure they would have enriched the experiences, even if they were running around going "Look at MEE look at MEE!" all through the birth - they can't help it, they're over-excited!

You are obviously far more concerned about your giving birth experience being all about YOU and your baby than including the whole family on a special day - shame on you!

YABU. A birth just wouldn't feel right to me without a load of brides and grooms running around and having fun together.
You sound like a bit of a cow to me tbh. Imagine their disappointed little faces as they are being told that they are not welcome at the birth! You will break their hearts!

but what about the cost? Does no one care about that

Well you could just have a less fancy birth. That way you could afford to include everyone.

Get your family involved, there is a lot you can make yourself to reduce costs. I knitted my baby's cot and used the leftover wool for my episiotomy, and with the money saved I was able to invite bride and grooms at the birth.

Easy!

I sort of agree with you Thankgod

a simpler birth is much more the way to go...we I had DD it was just me, DP and a midwife - much cheaper and more personal

Why not have a destination birth? Then chances are they wont be able to afford to come. Just you and your baby, giving birth in a Sandals resort in Jamaica!

Used the left over wool for the episiotomy

Also is it unreasonable to ask brides and grooms that are not invited to send money instead of gifts?