to expect my special needs Son not to be abused and humiliated by his father?

[mumandthree3]

I'm worried sick. My ex physically and mentally abused me and my children while we were together. He carried on abusing the children once we separated during access visits. I stopped the children going.
My ex took me to court to get access again. He had supervised visits and he was the model father of course. He was granted unsupervised fortnightly visits. Now the abuse has started again.
I spoke to my Sons Social worker who was about as much use as a chocolate fireguard. I cant get a response from the solicitor despite several phone calls.
I know i'll be in contempt of the court order if I dont send them but my instincts say dont let them go. They are supposed to go tomorrow.
What shall I do?
Has anyone else experienced problems with an abusive ex?

Flipp-I was asking the OP to answer questions because i am a CP SW and was going to give her advice. Knowledge is power and i get as sick as anyone when i hear of SW not doing their jobs properly and solicitors giving incorrect advice,the law and "system" can be used in your favour only if you know how to do it.

You cannot give advice without asking the history. I don't see your problem. The OP asked for advice not hand holding.

OP i was meaning a plan to protect you and your children from your ex, being on a plan isn't always a negative thing.

If you had of been unsupervised contact wouldn't have been given so easily to your ex.

I am leaving the thread.

Birds, I would appreciate it if you didn't patronise me, thank you.

I am sure you can see why I (and indeed any decent human being) would have an issue with the bullying and obnoxious nature of many of the posts on here.

Yes, some of them are scaremongering also, which is never helpful, that is why i put please in my question. I didn't patronise you, i explained the reason as to why i was asking the questions,for the OP also so that she didn't think that i was being nasty.

There are to many posters on here who are to quick to accuse others about their intentions or shout troll to an OP.

If MN has so many 'embittered women' on it Worraliberty why do you spend so much time on here?

flippinada I do it just to annoy you lovely

But despite your little flurry of frenzied posts, this thread isn't about you or what you think of other people's posting habits.

I am so angry for you, that is shocking

my stepmother abused my autistic sis for years knowing her speech was very limited.
I.e,making belts very tight on her knowing it would flare her PCOS. making her wear trousers too small.
making her sleep on the floor.
Making her wear dirty clothes to parties etc,
Making her use the shower instead of the bath, I can remember hearing the screaming whilst I was on the phone to my dad :(.

Change solicitors I would say , so sorry you're going through this.

If you ring the police now and report the abuse will that ease the situation of them not going?

Archmedes :(

I agree that a more on the ball solicitor would be more useful; the problem is paying for it of course.

I appreciate where you are coming from now Birds, having re-read your posts.

I am not "lovelyrewine" she has shown me the post and as Public Protection police officer I advise you that if you believe there has been abuse which constitutes criminal acts you must inform the police. They are duty bound to investigate, they also have powers they can use to protect your children. From you post it appears as a result of your initial report to them he was arrested and cautioned therefore any abuse prior to this has been closed from the police perspective, however any new abuse should be investigated. The fact he has been cautioned before can be used as evidence to his bad character. You should be prepared that police should want to interview your children as they hold the evidence, this should be done by specially trained officers on video. In my view you have no option on this, as failure to report this is potentially neglectful. You should advise the duty social work you feel your children are at risk of significant harm, and if the police and sw don't act suggest that they may be neglecting there duties.

Flippinada yeah it seems the solicitor isnt too hot.