DH usually goes snowboarding every year with his friend. He looks forward to it all year and he never really does anything for himself or spends money. He works hard.
This year we talked about the possibility of me and DS1 (12) going as well. My job doesn?t allow me to take holiday out of school holidays, so when we looked at the prices we realised we wouldn?t be able to afford it. DH suggested just taking DS with him but his school doesn?t allow holidays in term time either (and is quite strict about it).
We agreed that DH would just go with friend as normal. Yesterday DH announced that friend is bringing his GF and her two DSs (which she is taking out of school). I am friends with GF and her DSs are friends with my DS (different school).
I said to DH it would be unfair on our DS1 for him to go snowboarding with friend, his GF and her DSs. DH said well we won?t bend the rules will we? (meaning me)! I said it?s not fair that he sees friend?s GF?s DSs being rewarded for breaking the rules. DH said well DSs reward will be he does well at school!! I know DH thinks I'm being uptight re school rules.
I said it?s not a good message for DS that he gets left out just because we stick to the school rules re holidays.
DH agreed not to go and he has been fine about it. But now I feel like the bad guy. Especially because he hasn't even got the ump...
AIBU??