Hello - I'm new so please be gentle - though am genuinely interested in what you have to say, as I really can't work this one out.
I got engaged this weekend (yay!) and have never wanted to have an engagement that lasted years and years. Though, need to save too, so was vaguely looking at April/May next year.
My DB is getting married next July, having got engaged over a year ago. I rang him and asked how he felt about me potentially having a wedding before his. He said he didn't really care. But it now turns out he's been to the rest of the family crying how unreasonable I am, I have now been accused of trying to upstage him, to have my wedding overshadow his. This is nowhere near what I was trying to do, but just wanted a spring wedding not too far away...
Am I just being totally selfish and U? The weddings would be 2 months apart, I would not have it like the week before or anything. They would be very different in tone, location. Yes, some family will attend two weddings in the space of a few months, but it is hardly as if they are going to turn round and say they're only coming to one! He also told me that his fiancee might want to move theirs to the winter anyway - so am I then meant to put all my plans on hold and wait some more?
Friends say he's just being precious, but I can sort of see where he's coming from. Though he has always always got his own way and been left alone and not made to do anything he doesn't want to as the precious baby (I'm the oldest) and I sort of feel that this is the same thing...
Argh! Any advice?