To pilfer or not to pilfer?

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The Dc got chocolate for Christmas (selection boxes etc). I won't let them eat a lot at once, so there is still a lot left. I've given each of them an empty tin with their name son it and they keep their chocolate there and I let them have a bar of chocolate every few days.

Except, DH keeps helping himself to it, and he refuses to replace what he has taken. I've put the tins away now so that he won't be so tempted. He says I am being anal and the chocolate was originally bought with his money, and I say he is being unreasonable!

So, over to you MN judges!

It's not his. Hibu.

Good, so far 1-0 to me!

YANBU - DH was like this until I ripped into him (he had eaten my chocolate as well as the kids!). He wouldn't take their toys from them because 'he bought them with his money', and to me there is no difference.

He is stealing food from the mouths of his own children and is a twat can I do it? can I? ohhhh alright I will...
Leave the Barstardddddddddd!

If they won't notice, then I'd pilfer it. Chocolate's bad for them so it's not as if it's depriving them.

2-0 to you.

It is their chocolate not his. He can buy his own if he wants chocolate not nick his childrens.

VU once they are old enough to understand what they have, when ds was 9 months he got something like 8 easter eggs, he got a few tastes and we ate the rest

But your dh is very out of order, tell him to buy his own sodding chocolate.

If he was a woman, should he feel free to use my perfume??? No! Hands off!

We do it all the time, but the kids haven't got individual portions iyswim. Just a sweet tin it all goes in. And we all scoff it.

They are 8 & 9, so they understand

Not his - our DCs Christmas chocolate is in a big box and neither DH nor I eat any of it without the relevant child's permission (fortunately, DD1 has a number of things she doesn't like - Crunchie, anyone?)

YANBU dh used to do this too and it really annoyed me.
We end up with loads if Easter eggs and chocolate at Christmas and things but I share it out between them and ration it and it lasts ages.
Dh on the other hand thinks if it's there it needs to be eaten immediately.

I see.

So when you buy something for someone , it remains yours and you can take it whenever you like, yes?

Good to know.

ok, it's only chocolate and it's better to share than to scoff by yourself, but it's the attitude that is wrong. My money bought it so it's mine. No. Once you give something - it's no longer yours.

Be that chocolate, an I-phone, a penny chew or a diamond necklace.

i dont see the problem, when the 'gifts' run out, wont they be replaced? what not ever? these are the only chocolates your kids are ever going to get?

familys that pick together, stick together ;)

Chocolate every few days isn't ideal really, BUT it is theirs. Though I don't think your DH is commiting theft as such and its not a major deal and nothing to fall out about. When the chocolate is gone its gone and your DH can take the children to the sweety shop for more.

I am probably quite relaxed about this as I've just eaten DH's chocolate fingers... I don't see the logic in keeping chocolate in the house. Its either eaten, or not bought. Which is probably why I was fat, and probably why we now never have chocolate in the house.

Christmas chocolate gets given away to whoever will have it here, my kids got far too much (and because I don't keep it for fear of devouring it myself) so we've had a fair few playdates where the kids hand it out. They don't much care either way.

Next time he does it, just give a significant look at his moobs and snort knowingly. Do it a couple of times. If he still nicks the chocolate after that, pat his tum and snort. No need to say anything, just snort.

The DC do share it out with us and their friends, but it is their's to decide what to do with. They are a little confused as to why DH is allowed to just help himself without asking.

It is their chocolate, not his, tell him to buy his own!

(And then eat it when he isn't looking )

Very naughty of him!

It's not his!!

Keep this in the 'you'll keep section' for when the dcs are older and help themselves to his booze etc!!!

or the petrol in his car?! Good idea. After all, that also satisfies the "it will be replaced rule"

If they are old enough to notice missing chocolates, then yes he is bvu. Tell him to buy his own. Or pinch/hide one of the Xmas presents you bought him, and point out that since by his logic, you bought it so you still own it and can have it! See if that gives him a jolt!

"DH keeps helping himself to it, and he refuses to replace what he has taken."
That's not pilfering. Far too wussy a word. He is stealing. From his own children. What does that teach them, not just about life (the strong take from the weak) but also about their father (he is not to be trusted)?

I do it all the time.
I am saving my children from a lifetime of ill health and dental problems

That's not pilfering. Far too wussy a word. He is stealing. From his own children. What does that teach them, not just about life (the strong take from the weak) but also about their father (he is not to be trusted)?

I agree with this 100%.

He cannot, cannot teach his children anything good by behaving like this.