have posted in pregnancy but would like some more answers AIBU seems to get more traffic and in need of quick help/answers
I have my 40 week appointment tomorrow with the midwife and am having a serious dilema about if i should ask to be induced or not i could really do with some advice about it i have asked my mum and gran but mum is pro gran is against DP says it's up to me.
The reason i'm thinking of asking to be induced sooner rather than later is my grandfather is dying he was told last week he has 4-8 weeks to live but nurse says today she would say more like 4 weeks or less he is getting worse by the day, i really want baby to get here a) so my grandad can see him before he goes b) i'm terrified of going into labour on the same day he dies c) I'm worried how i would cope with labour if he dies days before i give birth d) ideally i would like my baby to be as old as possible before i go though the grief of losing him (i know that might not happen) i feel it would be easier if i'm not pregnant or just given birth
Also have been getting painful BH for almost 3 weeks as well as sickness, diarreah and period cramps and stabbing pains so bad i can't walk in my fanjo and bum! it's getting old fast!
On the other hand i've heard not so good things about induction and wonder if it's fair to push for baby to be delivered early when he's not ready because of the circumstances. I'm so stressed and upset i really don't know whats for the best i really need some help with this.