AIBU to find kissing, hugging, telling friends I love them all the time a bit uncomfortable?

[clare458]

Do you kiss, hug and tell your friends you love them whenever u see them or talk on the phone? I have a couple of friends who do this and I feel really mean not feeling very comfortable with people saying things like 'love ya Hun' nearly every frigging day for the slightest thing.

My cousin does this and it makes me squirm. I always think of her as a walking netmum and me as the cynical mumsnet bitch

She calls me hun and chick and says love ya babes all the time. I'm like this:

see you later!

Nope, YANBU. I hate it.

No, no and no - a thousand times no. It's just too much, I hate it - and ignore it, it makes me feel very uncomfortable. I also wonder whether people who call you 'hun' or 'babe' or similar, just can't remember your name?

Don't mind it in RL, hate it on fb. But feel compelled to join in or look horrid.

No! can't stand all that huggy kissy crap!

YANBU. Luckily I don't know many people who do this.

I've had to learn how to hug and kiss platonically as when I was growing up it didn't happen at all (play a violin for me!!) as our family isn't touchy feely, but I actually rather like it when friends and family offer a hug. I do what my ex used to refer to as a 'Charlie hug' which I found out was a chimpanzee from MonkeyWorld...

If it's someone I don't know then I suppose it feels a bit weird. And if people SAY those things on the internet then I take it with a pinch of salt.

God no, I'd think someone was dying if they said that! And 'hun' too? Slam the phone down fast!

I tell my best friend I love her because I really do. Wouldn't do the 'luv ya babe' thing though. Cringe.

YANBU I have no friends who do this, thankfully.

It seems to be something kids do.

You are not alone - I have always been terribly Anglo Saxon in that regard and am rather normal reserved in that manner. Interestingly, my daughter has a very huggy kissy friend and I also catch her looking perplexed and rather uncomfortable when, at the end of the day, she is enveloped in cuddles and declarations of undying love from this girl!!

No, not something I do with friends - or family tbh, outside of DH and DD.
When saying hello/goodbye to some friends than they tend to kiss on cheeks, so do that - but that is as far as it ever goes.

I do hugs when I first see someone, depending on who it is, I might do kisses.

However. "Hun" (do people actually say that? I only ever see it on fb), "babes" (reserved for my partner) and "love ya" would see a swift end to the friendship.

I am from the far reaches of Scotland. We don't do "love" up there.

I have an American friend and she will regularly tell me she so totally LOOOOVES me. It is way too much and makes me cringe.

I hate it too. I feel very uncomfortable hugging people, DP was the only friend I actually ever felt comfortable hugging (and then we hooked up) I don't even feel comfortable hugging/kissing my sisters when we meet!

I am the most unhuggy person on earth, to the point where when we leave church I always skirt round the vicar whilst holding one of the dc's to avoid it. I think he thinks I'm a bit odd! On the rare occasion I've miss timed I always go the wrong way or he ends up with a face full of my hair. I'm just crap at it!

My good friend is the opposite and all babes, suge, hun etc. I don't really get it to be honest.

I like a cuddle with Dh and there is nothing better than a snuggle with the chidlers, but aside from that - no thanks.

I don't hug anyone except DH and DD. I hug them ALL the time. Friends know this, even if they are huggy they know not to try it with me and my standoffish ways. I'll just stand there if they insist on doing it and then request they don't do it again...

I absolute hate it.. and dread greeting good friends because so many do the kissing (actual or air, I'm never sure!) and hugging and I am NOT a touchy feely person. I just about tolerate my DH and we have been married 23 years

I try and shuffle off to a safe distance!

As for the declarations of love. Just. No.

YANBU - I'm like Boomerwang and had to learn this over the years, nobody did the hugging, cheek kissing where I was brought up. Totally threw me when I got to university and met people who seemed to so effortlessly greet everybody in this way. Now its ok with my good friends, but I still get uncomfortable sometimes with some people who I don't think I know really well enough, but seem to think they know me well enough to kiss and hug - the awkward movements either away or towards them. And calling people "hun" and "babes" I just find odd.

My family get a hug and a kiss on the mouth. My close female friends get a hug at the end of the night (but only if we've been drinking!) I have 2 close male friends who get a peck on the mouth.
Can't be doing with all this hugging with your bum stuck out like a duck and air kissing from people I've met twice. So false and meaningless.

Only if I actually DO love them

And not all the time...

Yanbu. One of my closest friends does this, very huggy, tells me she loves me at the end of phone calls, calls me hun etc. I do love her dearly, but I still find it uncomfortable. Likewise my sister calls me hun. AAAARRRRRGGGGGGHHHHH!

I am not particularly reserved or 'stiff upper lip' I don't think, but I fond over expression hard. I show the people I care about that I care about them by the way I treat them, I hope!

Oh I hate all this hugging kissing business. Up north where I grew up we didn't do any of it. Then I moved to London and had to learn to kiss friends, and it made me rather uncomfortable. I never know whether to do one or both cheeks, and always seem to opt for the wrong one. Then I married a Dutchman, so had to get used to the Dutch way of THREE kisses with his family. I'm in a permanent state of kiss confusion - one, two, three, none? Oh to go back up to the sensible north...

I know I'm being totally unreasonable but I actually find the use of the word 'hun' to be incredibly patronising. I know that people who say it don't mean it to sound the way I think it does, but I do get inwardly annoyed.

And I find ALL endearing terms i.e. dear, darling, love, babs, hun, pet, poppet etc to be supremely patronising when it comes from a colleague or boss.

Nope as a rule I don't tend to do that with my 'normal' friends, unless they are upset or stressed and then I am the first to give them a hug or if they are a close work collegue leaving work.

However, being a theatrical I do have a few really good friends who are very "Sweetie, luvvie, Dhaaarrlling!! Big hugs mwah mwah" and in that context I must admit to doing it a lot as it's such a giggle. 4 or 5 camp gay blokes running up to you with open arms and loads of giggles how can you not reciprocate and enjoy it! Lol.

My 15 yr old does all this hugging business when meeting or leaving someone. 'nuff said.