Something funny when a teen does it but not a grown man

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Over crimbo DS (16) had a little 'party' one night whilst I went out with DP. I bought them a bit of alcohol (sensible kids, all parents fine with it) and left them to it. During the course of the night one of the female friends made herself a cup of tea, DS took the teabag off her and launched it at the ceiling. Unfortunately for him, I walked in at the point where they were rallying around trying to find the best thing to clean the mess up with. DP was horrified. I said no big deal, leave it - DS will clean it up in the morning when he's 100% sober. (Which he did). I later admitted to DP that I found it quite funny.

Fast forward to this weekend, DP brought a few bottle(s) of wine around as it was my birthday. Half way through the night he called me into the kicthen where he stood with a huge gormless grin. He'd chucked a tea bag at the ceiling I told him it wasn't funny at all and he was clean it up there and then. Even more annoying that he doesn't actually live here. He ranted that I think the sun shines out of DSs arse and I "favour" him over everyone else. My argument is a teenager can get away with something that just seems pathetic and desperate in an adult.
AIBU?

He was probably just trying to make
You smile and if you went off on one and see him as desperate and pathetic for trying then... Well...

I don't know if you are BU or just bloody weird

A bit of both I think

Also, it's not like you told your ds that you thought it was hilarious, you confided in dp later on after ensuring ds would clean it in the morning (I'm guessing part of the reason you didn't lash into ds that night was the mixture of him being drunk and having all his friends there)

Totally different thing a grown man wandering into his partner's house and making a mess

i would be fuming the first time, your 16 year old isn't 3 and chucking tea bags around don't sound very sensible to me.

YABU to treat the incident differently if you thought both of them should know better than to pull that kind of stunt.

YANBU to be pissed off at tea stains on the ceiling both times.

You misery - He was obviously try to have a laugh with you over something you told him you had found funny.

You should have told both of them off - not exactly consistent otherwise.

Don´t think it´s funny when either do it tbh.

Can´t decide if your partner sounds a bit juvenile to think that you would find it funny when he did it or he´s desperate to cheer you up/be noticed.

YABU

Your 'sensible' 16 year old got pissed and did that, your DP was horrified, you made light of it and told him you thought it was funny.

You and DP have a bit of a drink, - he tries to be funny - you lose it with him.

Spot the childish one.

Well said wormy

I don't think it was funny on either occasion TBH

Depends if your DP was genuinely doing it for a laugh, or if he was doing it to engineer an argument so he could criticise you about you favouring your DS.

It's not that funny when a teen does it, a grown man doing it is making an arse of himself, and by whinging about your reaction, he's making a bigger arse of himself. The operative words here are grown up Why would he even think that that was a good idea?

"He ranted that I think the sun shines out of DSs arse and I "favour" him over everyone else."

Well, it's your child..of course he'll be your first priority. Does he struggle with this fact? Irrespective of whether your son should have been told off or not, it's extremely immature to replicate their behaviour to see if he can get away with it as well. It's rather sad too.

..it was a teabag.. not a can of paint.... lighten up a bit. It isnt particularly funny.. but the way you reacted to your boyfriend doing exactly the same as what your son did in such a contrasting way does make you seem as though your son can get away with anything and you find it funny but if your boyfriend does it, you get the hump with him..

I wouldnt find it overly funny if anyone did it to be honest....however, you cant find it funny though if DS does it and then go ape if DH does it....maybe he was trying to prove a point!

How strange!

I would also find my tipsy teenager doing something like that mildly amusing, provided he cleared it up properly the next day - amusing because he was endearingly tipsy, not because of the actual action. I would also think a grown man doing it in someone else's house to be a tosser, and not amusing at all, as he should know better by that age. So no, YANBU!

1 - you think it's ok to let a 16 year old get tipsy or worse... and you supply the drinks. I wonder where the binge drinking culture comes from. :(

2 - not funny the first time. Not sure why you thought it was that your 16 year old had such behaviour.

3 - even less funny the second time. Why did he have to clean it immediately if your DS didn't?

He was making a point and he does have one.

YANBU - assuming you aren't dating your son's classmate, there's nothing wrong with expecting adults to be more mature than teenagers! I find my students' antics (secretly) hilarious sometimes, but don't want to come home to my boyfriend doing the same thing. Be thankful that your son isn't still at the pants-wetting or food-throwing stage, would dp also copy that?!?

YANBU I'd expect more mature behaviour from an adult than I would from a teenager.

Is Sharon The Hoor still around, I wonder? And what happened to the dead wasp on the windowsill?

I would expect more mature behavior from a teenager too TBH!! I would never have done that to my mum and dads house as a teen, where has respect gone! I would kick DS's arse if he did that, it's not funny, it's not endearing, it is damn disrespectful...and would just prove that he could not hold his drink!

Your dp should come live in my house for a while. My neighbour has been chucking tea bags on my front door for 10 years. That should wipe the gormless grin out of his stupid face.

It is not funny when a teenager do it.
It is not funny when an adult decides to copy a teens silly behaviour and think you will find it endearing!

Is he a bit dim?

YANBU. Also a party with a bit of alcohol at 16 is fine in my book, doesn't make everyone a binge drinker

I would also find it a bit amusing from a teenager as long as he cleared it up, which he did, and bless them trying to find something to mop it up with before you saw it.

As for your DP, bit of a twat for copying your DS. A horrible twat for the comment about you putting your DP first. Jealous baby comes to mind here OP.

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