Something funny when a teen does it but not a grown man

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Over crimbo DS (16) had a little 'party' one night whilst I went out with DP. I bought them a bit of alcohol (sensible kids, all parents fine with it) and left them to it. During the course of the night one of the female friends made herself a cup of tea, DS took the teabag off her and launched it at the ceiling. Unfortunately for him, I walked in at the point where they were rallying around trying to find the best thing to clean the mess up with. DP was horrified. I said no big deal, leave it - DS will clean it up in the morning when he's 100% sober. (Which he did). I later admitted to DP that I found it quite funny.

Fast forward to this weekend, DP brought a few bottle(s) of wine around as it was my birthday. Half way through the night he called me into the kicthen where he stood with a huge gormless grin. He'd chucked a tea bag at the ceiling I told him it wasn't funny at all and he was clean it up there and then. Even more annoying that he doesn't actually live here. He ranted that I think the sun shines out of DSs arse and I "favour" him over everyone else. My argument is a teenager can get away with something that just seems pathetic and desperate in an adult.
AIBU?

Both you and your DP were being unreasonable.
If its not funny when your DP does it - Its not funny when your DS does it either.
Your DS needs to grow up a bit as does your DP.... and perhaps you should re think your decision to get 16 yr olds alcohol.

Your DP sounds jealous of your son. I would dump him :)

Also a party with a bit of alcohol at 16 is fine in my book, doesn't make everyone a binge drinker
Not if they get drunk, and perhaps not everyone, but enough people.
It's bad enough if they have their parents' approval and example.

You go ahead and kid yourselves. :)

Well, it's your child..of course he'll be your first priority. Does he struggle with this fact? Irrespective of whether your son should have been told off or not, it's extremely immature to replicate their behaviour to see if he can get away with it as well. It's rather sad too

I agree with that ^^ tbh.

Was it a test? If so, the result should be a big fat F....for fuck off.

I feel sorry for your DP. He probably can't do right for doing wrong.

And y'know, just because a person is an adult, and all grown up doesn't mean they can't goof around ocassionally. He probably did it because YOU had said it was funny (though still not seeing why it would be only funny if a pissed up 16 did it?)

No big deal really. Your DP probably didn't get why you thought it funny first time round, he is probably now utterly confused why him doing the same thing isn't.

I'm not against supervised drinking, but leaving a house full of 16 year olds (sensible when sober) with alcohol that you've provided, unsupervised, well I think you got a lucky escape with just a tea bag hitting the ceiling. My friend's sensible child's friends trashed her home. You personal choice of course I just don't see your overall logic.

If something is funny, its funny once past a certain age. Sure, if your son was 2 and smeared beans all over his face it wouldn't be funny if your DP then copied. Your DP seems a bit desperate to please you. You sound a bit confusing.

Can't say I agree at all with leaving 16 yr olds unsupervised with alcohol.
Kids who are usually sensible can become stupid when drunk, especially as they are (shoudn't be) not used to it.

Your DP's a twat.

Aldiwhore, you've got to be kidding?

I didn't read it as them being unsupervised, - she may have left them to it and gone upstairs or to a neighbour for an hour or so, which is fine in my book.