for wanting OH to keep his memory in his own head, not mine?

[2kidsintow]

Where's this?
Where's that?
What day are the kids on school dinners?
Are you getting them from the childminders or am I?

etc...etc...etc...

Where are your keys? On the hook? No? Well they're your keys so I don't know.

Where is your hairbrush? On your drawers? No? Well then, it's wherever you left it.

Where is your trainpass? In your bag? No? In your wallet? No? In your coat pocket? Yes? Well surely you could have looked there before asking.

I get absolutely sick of the fact that my DH never 'gets' or 'fetches' anything he always 'looks for' because he NEVER puts anything where it belongs because it takes too much time. I've tried suggesting that if he takes that few seconds to put something where it belongs then he won't have to spend any time looking for it.

Last summer he spent 2 and half hours scouring the garage and utility for the bung for the airbed before we went camping. I would have just let him buy a new one, except that this was a new one after he lost the bung from the previous airbed after the last camping trip.

ARGGGGHHHHHH!

My stbxh is also struggling on his own.
My house is the tidiest it's been in 22 years, his looks like something from the young ones and he can't find anything.
He aske DD(4) where stuff is, she's only there a couple of days a week.
She despairs and tells me that daddy never knows where anything is.

The thing is not all OH's are like this. My friend has a lovely DH and whilst I'm sure he has his faults, the house being untidy, leaving clothes on the bathroom floor and never knowing where anything is are not in there.

I am forever being accused of not washing/loosing DH's t-shirts. I have many times, lovingly sarcastically taken him by the hand and shown him that if he just lifts the first layer up, then as if by magic, the desired item appears. Has yet to sink in.

Currently I am in the dog house for loosing his sleeping hat which I have had the gall to wash and then put back in his specially designated hat drawer. I know it's there but I'll be buggered before I get it out for him, daft git.

I'm convinced that there is a firm belief amongst some men that the uterus is a homing device.

YANBU, I hate that DH uses my brain instead of his when he completely knows something, but just cant be bothered to think, read or remember. He will ask "what temperature does the oven need to be on" when he is looking at the recipe in the kitchen and I am in another room. He will ask "who is picking up DD from nursery" when we have had that conversation ten minutes ago or "where are my keys" when they are where they always are. Drives me nuts.

Also if I want him to have in his diary that something is happening (e.g., his sister down for the weekend or when our holiday is so that leave gets booked or DD's carol concert), I have to send him a meeting request invite to his work email. Just telling him means that he wont put it in himself.

I fondly remember him saying that I hadnt told him when my C-section was booked (he was there when the date was agreed and in addition, I had, about five times) and that we would need to move it as he had a meeting that day.

We don't have too many problems here but we did have words after DS was born. Every morning
Him: "What is DS going to wear today?"
Me: "No idea. What's in his drawer?"
Him: "I don't knoooooooooow"

After about a week I pointed out that I didn't have a clue as, in case he hadn't noticed, I hadn't received an instruction booklet with the baby either. He's a lot better now.

YANBU

However I will be using the earlier mentioned quote.
My answer is "I'll have a look if you like but when I find it I'm going to hit you with it".

For now if DH cannot find something in our house I very very rarely will help him and instead tell him it is up his/my/the dogs etc bottom.

I wouldn't mind but yes he is another who holds down an important professional job AND he is the one who created the "key pot" but he doesn't put his bloody keys in it, so when we need to swap cars queue argument.

I am glad others do not get listened to also, I have told DH that it will be his own undoing not listening to me because one day when I say, for example, "if you do not get off the road the bus will run you over" (and then he gets run over), he will only have himself to blame.

Google Calendar is very good for this. You can synchronise your appointments so you can see what everyone is doing and when

DH this am, where are my shoes?
In your end of the sodding shoe rack. You are standing by it you idiot.
DD2 and I had to sneak into the kitchen to have a giggle.

All I can say is,thank God I am not alone.And thank you for this thread, I have just LOL'd through my lunch at this.

I am now convinced that we are all marrried to the same men :)

I put up a calender and a chart last year to help DH. He loooked at neither and still asked me.

I have a wall calender up - with all family and DC appointments on it.

DD1 was invited to a birthday party - I wasn't well and was bit stressed with deadlines and other stuff, and I'm dyslexic so often read things slightly wrong and I got confused and got the weekend before the party.

DH took her with the invite with date and time on and location. Must have read it to know where to go.

Got there and found it was the wrong weekend.

DD1 must have talked to her friends about the forth coming party so have some idea of timing and DH had the bloody invite with date on and access to the calender, a phone with the date on he's glued to and a job involving meetings ect so presumably knows the date at work.

Guess whose fault is it was - .

Same with the eye appointments he booked for him and DC. I wrote it on the calendar after repeatedly asking him to do so and him failing then forgot as I wasn't going. I remembered on the Monday after appointment - I wasn't going to it but it was my fault it was missed . I phoned to explain and rebook then had to go with them.