being called 'mum' in Sainsbury's

[joben]

AIBU to think it was a bit strange (and tactless) for the cashier on Sainsbury's to repeatedly address me as 'mum', e.g. did, you get everything you wanted, Mum? How many bags did you use Mum? Have you got a nectar card Mum? I didn't have any children with me, and the only suggestion that I might be a Mum, was the bag of chicken nuggets on the conveyor belt? Or is the stress of motherhood really that obvious from my appearance?!

ooh it was Sainsbury's low hall too, the one by the Dog track? Really, would appreciae it if your have similar experience, am starting to think I was hearing things

I will of course now be very upset i fOhDoAdmitMrsDeVere has the same cashier as me and does not get called 'mum' as this will mean I am very
'mumsy' loooking!

Joben
From what you say she could easily have recognised you, know youc are amother, and was being friendly.

Am failing to see why so many people are looking for reasons to

Be offended

Hah! Knew it.

I will deffo listen out for any 'mums' 'ma'ams'
I am married to a west indian man so am pretty familiar with a variety of accents.

I might even get him to say ma'am in as many dilects as he can muster.....

bettter mum than gran as I was referred to recently...

OH reckons it was definately Ma'am.

Ouch Zoo

I know. I wouldn't mind but I thought I was looking quite foxy that day

why would a cashier need to call you anything? You could just ask: "Did you get everything you needed?" or " Do you have a nectar card?" I can do without "ma-am" tbh but I don't mind love, darlin

I am sure you were zoo I reckon who ever said it was well jell and wanted to bring you down a peg

gran snort
that is a definite no, no

ah Mrs Devere I will try - very hard - to believe your explanation is the truth

its still weird people do this when you have kids. like at nursery parents evening we went to. What does dad think. how does mum feel about this.

gah our kid is running around over there and we have names!

I do not understand how it even makes any sense. Even if the child is next yo you.

Intrigued. OP please go back and hang around her till to see if she calls everyone 'Mum' or just dishevelled, tired looking mummy types

Annoying, your are nbu. The same as being repeatedly called "young lady" in Tesco. Well past the age of 10, which in my opinion is the cut-off date for that particular phrase.....

Ursula
I just got called love by a teenager on the Tesco checkout, is this new?!
No, I have been called love by a teenager at Tesco 2-3 years ago.

Not too bothered if a granny calls me love, but not a teenager!
I almost called the manager. :o

What happened to good manners?

Madam can definitely be shortened to mum. Seems unlikely she was called you mum as in mother when your kids weren't there.

did you have a black out and lose time and one of your kids is now sixteen and got a job in Sainsburys?

Have spoken to Mother between starting to read this thread and finishing, and she says all the housemaids used to call her mother 'Mum' (meaning Madam) about a million years ago before the war when the middle classes still had live in servants.

It is almost certainly a contraction of madam (ma'am)

Although if I am being pedantic, 'Mum' is a (sadly common) mispronunciation Ma'am should be pronounced to rhyme with Pram or Ham.

Anyway OP no need to get your knickers in a twist they aren't being gratuitously offensive, it isn't like they referred to you as 'fannybaws' or anything is it?

This is a funny thread, not only does someone else know the exeter cashier who says mum, but I grew up in lewisham and remember the fruit and veg man shouting oranges for the mums!

Ah yes, Lewisham market. I used to work on the high street (20 years ago)

ismeyes dont forget there is also someone me who goes to the actual supermarket in the thread