I have namechanged just incase!
We have friends who come to stay with their kids a few times a year, just for a night or two. We make dinner, dessert, treats, lots of wine, beer etc. Everyone is very welcome to eat as much as they wish and friends often say 'a bit more on my plate' or 'anyone for a top up' so i assume they feel happy enough when here.
In the morning everyone is welcome to help themselves to tea/coffee, cereal, toast etc until I am organised then I make a cooked breakfast (either fry up, french toast or pancakes normaly). Friend and her dh and kids will help themselves and ask what are you planning to make for brunch.
However when we go there dinner is put on the table with an announcement of how many pieces there are for each person (ie. there are two slice of pizza each) and if there is any 'spare' her own family are offered this first. We are asked to pick up the booze on our way there 'to save them the trip to collect it'. We always take along treats and some wine, beer anyway. When it is time for breakfast kids are offered toast and honey (my dc's don't like honey) and although friend knows this the answer is 'you will be hungry on the drive home then'.
I know this sounds petty but it's starting to annoy me.
Last week she invited me over and asked me to help decorate her bedroom. I happily helped, took biscuits for coffee and a pint of milk (as requested). I was there from 8am to 4pm and offered a cup of coffee and a biscuit. I was starving! However when friend popped in here a few days later she had cake and coffee... then asked 'are we having lunch here before we head out for a walk'.
AIBU or am I expecting too much?