to be severely cheesed off this morning?

[AKMD]

This is a minor AIBU but...

DH went to bed at 8pm last night without a word to me. This morning his alarm went off in another room at 5.30, which woke me up but not him so I woke him up and went back to sleep. At 6am the front door slams, waking up DS (1yo). At 6.05 the door opens and then slams again. I look out of the window and DH is driving off! I called him to ask where he was going and it turns out he was off the the gym and then to work.

AIBU to think it's not ok to:

• go to bed unusually early without saying goodnight to your spouse
• set your alarm in another room, knowing that it won't wake you up (this has happened before and we've had word, obviously forgotten)
• wake everyone up an hour early
• leave the house an hour early without telling your spouse about it first, leaving them to take out the bins, get themselves ready for work and get an angry toddler ready for nursery?

coz I is cross!

Hmmm..

It doesn´t seem as if he went to bed without saying goodnight after all then

So, OP, YABU on that.

Setting an alarm to go off in another room such that it will disturb everyone except the person intended-not best practise!

Unfortunately OP, I think we have to put up with sometimes being woken up early-especially if we have the chance to sleep on.

But as I said before-slamming doors, never good.

That may be the only fault I can find tbh.

at this whole thread. Especially the fork in the eye comment

Arf at this thread.

Hope this evening is a peaceful and affectionate one in the AKMD household

Actually I not infrequently lie down next to ds to get him off to sleep and end up falling alseep myself. It's not something I deliberately do, so I wouldn't say goodnight either. I don't think dh minds (except when ds wanders downstairs to tell dh that I'm asleep in his bed and he's not asleep!)

Occasionally I have crept off in the morning (Next sale or something) but I usually leave a note for dh. If I wake him to tell him he's bad-tempered and I have to justify why I'm going, and it takes too long to get out/the children are woken by us talking etc.

However dh doesn't wake up for his alarm. If I have to get up early, I stop my alarm quickly, get dressed in the dark and leave with dh not disturbed. If dh has to get up, his alarm goes off... he doesn't wake so it goes on and on. I wake, I wake dh. He puts the alarm to snooze so I'm woken again... and have to wake him . He puts the light on, then often remarks "now you're awake it's be really nice if you came down with me" I then feel mean if I say no and resentful if I do.

So my conclusion is the alarm was UR the rest wasn't.

BTW I'd assume if he'd set the alarm for 5:30 he had some reason to be off early so I'd not have been surprised to see him driving off at 6:00 (except it taked dh more than 30 minutes to get up)

DH has commanded me to tell you all that he is usually very sweet.

All is well in the AKMD household.

commanded

Pizza for tea then?

Stir-fry as it happens.

What sunshine said.

I think waking up your spouse at 5.30 bloody am and going off just expecting her to take care of your child, just because you fancy a trip to the gym, is pretty inconsiderate.

References to PMT and MN bullies not that endearing either.