to think dh's friend is an ungrateful twat?

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DH has a childhood best friend who I dislike quite a lot. He seems to be only out for what he can get and only contacts DH when he wants something. DH, however, thinks he's great and answers any criticism of his friend with 'that's just the way he is.'

When we got married twatface (as he shall be known) was DH best man. He did not bring so much as a card. He wad the only guest not to even send a card and he was best man.
When twatface had his first child he asked DH to be godfather. We bought his DD a necklace in the shape of a cross with a diamond in the middle. It was a nice gift imo and something she could keep from her godfather. DH also gave them a cheque for £100.
Obviously we got no thank-you from twatface and his gf. When we saw them about two months after the christening I asked if they'd liked the gift. Twatface said 'oh yes, is it real double glazed glass in the necklace?' I was like, no, it is a diamond. He then went on to ask how much it had cost and said they'd have preferred to have just had all money as they'd spent most of the £100 on takeaways. WTF?

AIBU to let this annoy me? DH doesn't seem to mind so I suppose it is up to him but it pisses me off. I don't drink and if we go out they always want lifts and I always feel like saying no. Trouble is if I don't take them home twatface just gets drunk and then drives home. His gf does bot drive. I have even known him to have about ten beers and drive with his gf and DD in the car. He's a twat isn't he?

And you should speak up (lassie) if you dob him in for drink driving, you have done it for a reason, and you have nothing to be ashamed of.

"so it could cause a lot, and I mean A LOT, of ill feeling."

I´m tempted to say "so what".

This is how twats like this get away with it.

Anyone who decided to no longer speak to your husband/his parents because of this isn´t worth the time of day.

Is your husband friends with him because he daren´t not be?

sounds like he thinks he is funny but obviously isnt.
how would you feel if he killed someone while drink driving ?

On the drink driving I'd add to the "report him" chorus.

On the other stuff I'd let DH see him alone and avoid him and his gf personally. He does sound a spectacularly ungrateful friend. I'd also suggest that DH spend less money on him and family as he doesn't make the same effort although obviously up to DH.

It is a 999 job, not non emergency. A crime is in progress (him driving) that could endanger life.

I was told this myself by a police officer when speaking to her about a repeat offender. As we couldn't establish a pattern for someone to wait for them doing it I was told to 999 it when it did happen.

Do you like his gf? does she not have any feelings about her life and the life of her DD being put in danger like this?

I can't imagine myself or my dh even entertaining a prize knobber who thinks it's fine to drink and drive.

Gobsmacked. Your dh needs to wake up. In no uncertain terms, although i wouldn't go out with him again anyway as you clearly dislike him, i would tell him no you are not driving him home and if he drinks and drives you will ring the police as his partner seems to not care.

So what if it causes ill feeling he could kill someone! Also him being a twat is causing ill feeling and that doesn't seem to bother him. Maybe he won't want to bother with your dh anymore but I would personally consider that a happy side effect.

Another one adding to the report him chorus.

Also I'd refuse to socialise with him myself and leave DH to see him by himself.

next time he drinks and drives, call the police and give them his registration and details of where he is. If you know he is doing this, and do not contact the police how would you feel if he killed someone. next time you go out, have a drink, and refuse to drive them home, and tell them quite clearly that if they dare drive you will call the police. If they say you are unreasonable, they are fine to drive then tell them they have nothing to worry about then the polic eonly prosecute those who are over the limit.
You could get the local police number and dial that (I have used that when i was frightened, but not sure it was a real emergency). And if DH is livid with you for disagreeing with risking other people's lives then he is a twat too. Drink driving is basiclly saying you would rather risk someones life than go without a drink. I resent twats deciding my life is worth less than a few beers or a taxi.

can I also just say that if he kills someone through drink driving, it could end up getting you and dh into trouble if the police find out you knew full well he was drunk but did not report him when he got in the car. It might not be a crime, but do you want to have to stand up at an inquest in front of the family of a child he killed and admit you knew what was happening but ignored it as you did not want him to be mad at you?

That adds nicely to a very strong argument, Kelly2000

He is a twat.

His GF is also a twat for getting in the car with their DD.

A drunk driver crashed into me, killed himself in the process and hadn't had as much as 9-10 pints. How much he's had is irrelevant really anyway, he's over the limit therefore should not be driving.

Please report him, stay anonymous if you're worried about the consequences. He will keep doing it until either the police catch him or he ends up in an accident possibly seriously hurting someone else. The police catching him first is the best option all round.

Oh, and I'd also be annoyed about the money/necklace comments, but there's no way I'd have given them that much in the first place.

YANBU.

Yes he is a twat but then so is your husband, he adult he know full how is friend is and is allowing him to continue.

Just report twatface reg to the police now as he will be drinking and driving even if he is not out with your DH.