to think that 6-8pm is a bit of an odd time for a 4 year old's birthday party ??

[Tillyscoutsmum]

That's it really ......

Its not the end of the world and we shall probably go but my dc's (2 and 4) are generally in bed at 7ish.

It just seemed a bit of an odd choice to me. AIBU (or more likely, a bit uptight ?)

Well, yes, and no...8:00pm is a v. exciting time when you're four :o
But not really at a disco party, would be tiring after half an hour anyway, it'd only be fun at someone's home where you could make dens and feel the night coming on IYSWIM. A two hour long disco for little kids is too long.

Not the same but we invited our next door neighbours who are in their early 30's to our NYE party, they rang at 4pm to see when party started and DH said 8pm, i got a text half hour later to say sorry they couldnt come as it started to late and they both go to bed at 9ish

Yanbu

Who wants to be at a kids party at that time on a Friday

Well it will be a shame if your 2yo has to leave early but really I think people can hold parties whenever they like and if people can't make it they can't make it.

It's a bit late, but I am really surprised so many would prefer to stick to routines, rather than let their DC go to a party! It's on a Friday night after all (correct me if I am wrong), so they have the whole weekend to recover, and surely you would skip bathtime and just pop them straight in bed?

what do you all do on hoildays, i am pretty sure the DCare tucked up in bed at normal time.

it is a friday night and they will have saturday to recover

But if it's a Friday night surely the child will have all day Saturday to recover!!

Can't understand the problem tbh. But then i'm relatively easy going. My children are generally in bed around 8pm week nights, but Friday & Saturday they can stay up late.

When my ds was 4 he was up till 9, 10 or later for parties on occasion. On holiday at 4 he went to bed at 11-midnight every night! He's always been one to sleep in if he goes to bed late though.

I live in the Mediterranean and 8pm is evening meal time, a kids party at that hour (especially in the summer) would be quite normal.

I don't see the problem at all. I'd even take my 2 year old and know he'd even be perfectly fine with it. I've had some late (much later than 8) playdates with my 2 yr old on a Fri/Sat night and there's never been a problem. All the excitement of a party should get them hyped up so much that they shouldn't really feel the tiredness until they wind back down again and then they'd probably be flat out quite quickly once in bed.

I can't believe so many people would not go! Really, the world will not end if your child goes to bed late. It sounds quite fun to me! In fact, maybe even better than breaking up the weekend like all the Saturday afternoon parties we go to.

If you really think they'll be exhausted, the 2 yr old could be put in jammies at the end of the party and will probably fall asleep on the way home.

You might get a lie in on Saturday morning.

OOps x-posted anniemac. Totally agree. There are lots of fun things I do with my children that mean they go to bed late on those occasions. We wouldn't miss them for the world.

DCs would be practically comatose come 7'ish...hence DC1 yawning all through evening school pantomime that they were performing in!

They do stay up later for celebration or family occasions but again, yawning madly all the while

YANBU

Agree with anniemac and PatsysPyjamas. I won't tell you what time I rolled in with my 2.2 yr old NYE It wasn't planned though - just happened that way! But, he was perfectly fine and the excitement of it all kept him going. Needless to say, we both crashed out once we returned and slept really well

I don't see why the need for such strict routine, not just with sleep but with regards to baths etc. Why can they not have one the next day and just go straight to bed when they get in after a late night? I really don't call 8pm that late though.

I'd allow mine to go, although yep it's a bit late. Not a school night though and it would be a shame for the birthday boy/girl to not have friends there because of their parents' poor organising.

I agree with PatsysPyjamas.

Seems late to me. Even night owl DD1 went to bed at 8ish at that age.
Scouts finishes at 9 and DD has another activity that finishes at 8.30, but she's 10.
Doesn't bother her, but she wants to unwind and I'd quite like some peace.

Is a bit odd, but wouldn't be an issue for us.

It is just one night, we have family BBQs that run later than that and the kids are fine, they just run around.

I have never really bothered with tight routines though, just went with the flow.

ds1 would be in his eliment as he's a night owl. ds 2 would be ok as long as he had his dinner at 5pm! school nights they go to bed between 7.30-8.30(cub night). weekends they go to bed when they want to. ds 2 normally asleep by 8.30!