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Original poster

to think that 6-8pm is a bit of an odd time for a 4 year old's birthday party ??

78 replies

Tillyscoutsmum · 15/01/2012 19:56

That's it really ......

Its not the end of the world and we shall probably go but my dc's (2 and 4) are generally in bed at 7ish.

It just seemed a bit of an odd choice to me. AIBU (or more likely, a bit uptight ?)

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OlderNotWiser · 15/01/2012 19:57

Odd. My DCs would be snoring in the corner. We dont do 'late'!

Dolcegusto · 15/01/2012 19:58

Does seem quite late... Maybe parents are working that day and not around till then

FabbyChic · 15/01/2012 19:59

4 to 6 would have been better. but perhaps it suits them better for it to be at that time.

MrsPresley · 15/01/2012 19:59

It seems odd to me but maybe one of the parents work late.

At 4 I dont think any of my lot would have been able to stay awake, they were all early bedders, but also up up early Angry Grin

molly3478 · 15/01/2012 19:59

We have been going to a lot on friday night 5-7 and thats the time I am doing dds 4th birthday next month. Its 2 quid cheaper per head if you do it in the week where a lot of us go for the parties.

IneedAbetterNicknameIn2012 · 15/01/2012 20:00

Even my 7 year old would be in bed at 7 (normally) I'd let him go to a party that late, but I would find it odd tbh!

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 15/01/2012 20:00

I also think it is quite late - regardless of whether it suits the party throwers or not, they may well find their guests are on the tired and grumpy or overwrought side! Good luck to them!

workshy · 15/01/2012 20:01

our local soft play does a 'disco' party 6-8 -it's much better value as they have access to the play equipment for the whole time rather than being herded into the 'party room' for the last hour to eat for a maximum of 20 miniutes and then run wild for the remaining 40 minutes

have been to a few 4-5 year old parties at this session and the kids all seem to cope ok (not sure what they are like the next day though) mine were always fine as a one off

Gumby · 15/01/2012 20:01

Could it be a cheaper slot? Or the only one they could get? Either way if it were me unless it was a fri or sat night mean wouldnt be going

molly3478 · 15/01/2012 20:01

My DD goes to bed at 6pm nightly including on weekends but on party nights we have had so far I have gone down in the bed with her so she will nap and she wont be tired for the party

LaurieFairyCake · 15/01/2012 20:02

It's completely stupid, my 13 year old is in the shower by 8 for a 9 o clock bedtime. Who even goes out that late?

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Tillyscoutsmum · 15/01/2012 20:03

I know the parents well and "mum" is home from work by 4pm on a Friday. Dad is a SAHD. Neither of them work weekends (its on a Friday night and the birthday is early the following week).

My dc's can be pretty vile difficult when they're tired (particularly the 2 year old) Sad

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molly3478 · 15/01/2012 20:06

Cant you just put them in bed in afternoon for that one day? Then they will be ok for it. I dont mind parties that are on later the ones that wind me up are ones like 12-2 on a wednesday or 2-4 on a monday etc.

Lilyloo · 15/01/2012 20:08

I would be declining an invite at this time for dd2 4 it is far too late to have anything other than crabby kids.
Maybe if it was ds 10 then yes but far too late for 4 year olds.

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Tillyscoutsmum · 15/01/2012 20:09

molly - there's no way DD would sleep in the day (and she's at school). I could try and "tweak" DS's nap so he sleeps a bit longer/later but I have to wake him up for the school run.

It is a disco party (but just at a hired hall not soft play), so maybe that's why they've had it so late ?

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HappyMummyOfOne · 15/01/2012 20:10

Maybe its a private slot at the venue, lots of places do really early or evening slots where only one party is in.

PattiMayor · 15/01/2012 20:11

It's a really odd time for a 4YO's birthday party. Are they not going to be fed until 7-7.30? DS would be gnawing off his arm by then. I don't want to bring a child home from a party at that time of night either - too wound up and knackered.

mercibucket · 15/01/2012 20:12

Wish my bloomin dd would be asleep by 8! It is a bit late but as a one off, it's ok. Maybe only time they could get a booking?

PiedWagtail · 15/01/2012 20:14

Yep, bonkers. May be the only time the party venue does parties (eg soft play). My ds would have been verrrrrry badly behaved at that time :(

jelliebelly · 15/01/2012 20:15

Most unusual around here. I would decline and my two are 6 and 3.

QuintessentiallyShallow · 15/01/2012 20:18

I would decline an invite for so late for such young children.

Gumby · 15/01/2012 20:19

Put a 4 year old to bed in the afternoon who a) is at school and b) no longer naps?

Er no Hmm

Lilyloo · 15/01/2012 20:22

A disco party for 4 year olds until 8pm Shock

Pancakeflipper · 15/01/2012 20:24

A soft play place near us does private hire of the place ( costs more) for after 5pm. Could be that?

foreverondiet · 15/01/2012 20:25

I did for 8 year olds during school holidays 5.30pm-7.30pm and got comments too late. Far too late for 4 year old.

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